Post # 1
As of last week my man and I of 5 years got engaged!! Of course we’re both very excited 🙂 Now most ladies may know exactly what they want and how to do it but honestly I don’t know where to start. I feel almost overwhelmed with all I know needs to be done — but no place to start!! That being said… I am hoping everyone can offer me some advice and what we need to do first (besides an engagment party because our moms were ALL OVER that).
Are there any blogs or sites you suggest (other than this one) ?
Any books I should have?
He is saying next fall for the wedding and I just feel like that is too close!! I wouldn’t mind a long engagment and make it Fall 2015. Anyone have any advice on that?
Thanks so much in advance everybody!!
Post # 3
I agree with you about a long engagement. Our engagement is 19 months and I don’t regret it. Everyone is going to ask you a million questions but my advice is to just enhoy being engaged for a few months and then start the planning. In order to do that, you probably wouldn’t want to set date for next year. IMO longer engagements are better because you don’t feel the pressure to rush your decisions about everything. In addition, this is supposed to be a happy time for the two of you, so enjoy each other and hold off on the stress of planning a wedding.
Post # 4
@candydots: Congratulations! What an exciting time. Here’s a few tips from my experience.
1. Enjoy it for a week or two. Don’t worry about getting started right way.
2. Sit down with your fiance and decide what matters the most to you. I can’t find it now, but there are little questionnaires that you can download to go over together. For example, it lists out 20 adjectives and you both circle three that describe the type of wedding you want. Another question would be to mark out the top three things that matter the most to you for the wedding. This is really helpful to make sure you’re on the same page and that you have an idea of your theme.
3. Figure out your budget. Remember that any help you get from parents is a gift, and not a given.
4. Make your first pass at an invitee list.
Get through these steps first before you worry about books and blogs. If you do those four things, the rest of the stuff gets way easier.
My favorite wedding blogs:
Style Me Pretty
East Side Bride
Green Wedding shoes
Post # 5
Congrats! This is such an exciting time! I agree…take some time to really just enjoy this step. It’s amazing how much closer you feel to your SO when you become engaged. Make sure to have time just the two of you to celebrate and celebrate with friends (even before the engagemnt party). We told our families and then headed to dinner with our closest friends. It was a nice way to celebrate immediately and let everything sink in. After that, I would start talking with your fiance about what type of wedding you want (traditional, DW, romantic, evening, afternoon, etc.) and talk to each other and your families about budget. Once you get the main idea of what you guys want your wedding to be, then you can start with the details. I think the engagement period is up to both of you. My fiance and I talked about waiting until Dec. 2014 to get married (I’ve always wanted a winter wedding and once I talked to him about some of the ideas he was sold), but we realized we couldn’t wait 25 months. Our engagement will be 13 months and I think it is perfect. It depends on what you both have going on. We didn’t want any sooner (we got engaged in Nov. 2012) as I was in the middle of my first year of teaching and an accelerated Master’s program. My FI is also in school, so we knew about a year was perfect. Most of all…enjoy this time!
Post # 6
@candydots: “A Practical Wedding” by Meg Keene (there’s also the website – http://www.apracticalwedding.com )
Figure out your budget and try to start working on a guest list.