(Closed) Engaged.. too early and young? :/

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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576 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am still in school, and so is FI. He is 20, and I am 21, but we both have jobs. We are still getting married before we finish school though.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

I think it’s a really mature decision you both are making by getting your degrees first.  Try and look at the positives of the long engagement. More time to plan, save money ect. I understand how a long engagement may loose some of the excitement aspect after awhile but just remember what being engaged means… You get to marry the love of your life! Once the time comes where you are in official wedding planning mode, throw yourselves a little “wedding kick off” party to get friends and family and everyone excited for your upcoming wedding again.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

@mrs.stormylove:  I agree that you are making a very mature decision to wait until you are both a bit older and are out of college to get married! It might not seem this way now necessarily, but chances are very good that in a few years you will look back and be glad you waited. Laughing

I can understand wishing you had waited to get engaged, but here you are so make the most of your longer engagement and enjoy it. When it comes time to actually plan, I am quite confident the excitement will still be there!

 

Post # 6
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7992 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

I second the others… very sensible to wait. When FI and I marry, we will also have been together for over 7 years. We met at 22 and 19 respectively. So… sort of similar.

Post # 7
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501 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I aplaud you both for wanting to finish school.

Girl, no need to rush….you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. Follow your heart and if you aren’t “ready” then talk to your FI and you guys just hold off. If it’s meant to be, you both will be okay with waiting until you are “ready”.

Good luck!

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@thenuggetbride:  I am going through somewhat of a similar situation.  What I have gathered from months of contemplating (we’ve been engaged for almost a year now) and advice from other older and more mature people, you should follow your gut feeling and talk to your FI about this.  If he understands you and truly loves you he should understand!  I have to sit down with my FI and explain to him that I still want to be with him I just do not want to be engaged right now- I want to finish school and become the true authentic “me” before I commit to such a long life with him.  I understand that you still want to be with him, maybe just take a step back.  Maybe re-do the whole engagement thing- date for awhile, finish your degrees then try it again!  It’s your happiness and your relationship, do what feels right to you.

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