- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
Yay, I’m officially engaged!!! Have a ring picked out, just waiting for it to get here…which is driving me MAD but here’s my story :0)
Fi (hehehe) and I went on a family vacation to the Dominican Republic 2 weeks ago, and stayed in a villa in Puerto Plata. The countryside of DR is amazingly beautiful, btw, but I digress. We’ve talked marriage and proposals before, and I have always said (and still believe) that I didn’t need a ring to be proposed to and feel ‘properly’ engaged. I’d be just as happy with a twist tie from a bread bag, or nothing at all. I love diamonds and engagement rings, don’t get me wrong, but since this is my 2nd marriage (DH 1.0 passed away 3 years ago) I have a much different perspective than I used to. I want to show everyone how happy and in love we are, and that’s what is important to me. Having known this, he still couldn’t bring himself to propose without an actual ring all this time (We’ve been talking about getting engaged and planning on it since April LOL).
Back on track, every morning on vacation we’d wake up early and go for a morning walk before breakfast, usually to the beach which was so beautiful I couldn’t get enough of staring at it. On our last morning walk (a week ago today!), while I was busy taking a zillion pictures of the water and scenery, he asked (out of no where) if I meant it all the times I said I didn’t ‘need’ a ring right away. When I laughed and said of course I did, he looked at me and said ‘Will you marry me?’ I couldn’t believe he was serious!! I actually asked him if he was kidding, and if he really meant that we’d be engaged (he laughed at me) and then I made him ask again. He did and I said ‘Yes’ with the biggest smile on my face!! We immediately went back to the villa and announced it to my family over breakfast :0)
As for the ring, I meant it when I said I didn’t need one right away, I’m more than happy to be a wedding band only wife until we’re in a better position to spend the money (we want to buy a house, Christmas is coming, I’m self employed and the economy has cost me clients recently), and so when we got home I announced our engagement to everyone (including posting sappy things on Facebook, haha), ring be damned!! When people asked about the ring, I graciously said that it was a surprise spontaneous proposal, and so I didn’t have the ring yet, but wasn’t in a hurry for one. Fi didn’t like this answer, and felt as though he had done something wrong by NOT having a ring on my finger, no matter how many times I said it was our happiness I wanted to show off, not a ring. He felt cheap and self-conscious everytime someone asked about it. So now I’ll be getting a ring around Christmas LOL. The one I fell in love with is from Verragio, which is out of our budget, so we found a similar enough version and will hopefully have it in a few weeks…at which point I’ll post a zillion pictures!!! Ring or not, I am so happy :0)