(Closed) Engaged w/o a ring… late onset disappointment?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
3482 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Have you gone out shopping with your Fiance or are you just giving him suggestions? If he sees some actual rings on your finger he’ll probably get a clearer idea of what he’d be happy getting you. It might speed up the selection process a bit.

I was without an e-ring for over a year after Darling Husband and I got engaged. He knew that I’m really picky about my jewelry, so he asked me to design what I wanted and he’d have it made.

In the meantime I moved to the UK for a year for grad school, and while it was a bit strange at first, I just got used to telling people I was engaged and that my ring was in the making. Honestly, I was just so happy to be engaged that I never felt like I was “missing” anything not having a ring unless people pointed it out, and even then the feeling was only fleeting.

No matter what, trust me, when you finally get that ring on your finger, it won’t matter that it’s “after the fact”. I couldn’t stop staring at mine for months after it was finished and on my finger. Darling Husband still catches me checking it out, lol.

Post # 4
1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@linguo42: Agreed, once you get that ring, you’ll be definetley excited.

I was engaged for a month before getting a ring. He told me to start looking at venues and set a date and for me that was “engaged enough” I wasn’t expecting a ring after that, turns out he actualy proposed (looking back he was very careful of not asking the question before) when he gave me the ring.

He is getting you a ring so try to focus on that, maybe tell him you’re a bit sad about not getting it yet. I totally understand him wanting to have a final say on it cause he wants it to be something he picked for you. And yes once you get it you’ll get excited, just be a little pacient and stay strong.

Post # 6
1621 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Once you get the ring I’m sure everything will feel more real & exciting. I think sometimes just having to explain to everyone else about your naked hand is worse than not having a ring. Have you looked online for specials? Or maybe on idonowidont.com? you may be able to find something lovely for less money than it would cost in a store. I just make sure to have a reliable jeweler in your life that you can count on. I saw this set the other day and even though I’m not a huge yellow gold fan myself thought it was very unique, classic, pretty & elegant.

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Post # 7
1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My partner proposed with a necklace. One year earlier she had a custom made “promise ring” made of sterling silver, with interlocking heart in a Celtic design, with both our birthstones on either side. So there was no need for another ring.


Post # 8
2442 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Just tell people that the two of you are still searching for the perfect ering.  

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