Engaged Yesterday, Now What?!

posted 3 years ago in Beehive
  • poll: Would you rather do a rush wedding in 6 months or a long engagement of a 1.5 years? (i'm 30)
    6 months : (17 votes)
    47 %
    1 year and 6 months : (19 votes)
    53 %
  • Post # 2
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I think you could do it by late fall, depending on your venue and what kind of dress you want.  Some dresses take forever to come in (think higher end).  If you go to David’s, you get it that day….

    Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    PS, congratualtions.

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    futuremrspatrick:  I think a lot of it depends on where you live/what kind of wedding you want. We started looking at venues like 16+ months in advance of our June 2015 wedding and a LOT of stuff was already booked or had very limited dates left (and we had a very limited time frame that would work with our schedules). We are getting married downtown in a major city (Boston), though, so location definitely has something to do with it.

    I think you can absolutely plan a wedding this quickly if you really want, but be prepared to not get everything you want. We’re 14 months out and we’ve booked our venues, band and photographer, and in that process, ran into several places and people that were already booked for our date.

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Congrats! My FI and I are having a 6 month engagement, but we’re not having a big or traditional wedding celebration. I think it could be done, though.

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    CONGRATS!!! Girl… get it done with in 6 months. That is plenty of time and I think in the end you will be glad you did.

    Post # 7
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I’m in the same boat – I just posted a similar question because I’m trying to gauge when I need to start planning. Wish I saw this first lol.

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    its really variable…. depending on what you want, how picky you are, your budget and where you are it could be no big deal or totally impossible.

    the more flexible you are the easier it will be… first thing I would do is sit down with FI and make your guest list. I know you say like 75ppl but once you make an actual list and see where you are then you should talk budget (like round numbers… $1000 or 5000 or 10000 etc).

    Once you have your numbers in order (guest list and budget) then call a few places… sometimes you can get a great deal this close to the event if they still have an opening. Other times they might basically laugh at you for even thinking they would have an opening. If you are into something like friday or sunday that would also make it easier as they are slightly less popular

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Congratulations on your engagement!  I totally agree with PP’s to get it done in 6 months.  If you can make quick decisions, I say all the power to you.  One of my BFF’s had a 16 month engagement and by the end of it she was so over everything wedding related.  Kinda took the wind out of her sails.

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I think it really depends on your planning style. I have had 9 months to plan my wedding and I could have done it in less time because I really like getting sh*t done 🙂  I would say that you should check with some venues that you could love, and see if they are available. If you can get the venue, everything else can be done rush (even a wedding dress but you might have to pay a rush fee). Also, think about who you are inviting and whether they will be available in the fall. You may not want to rush through this engagement phase of your life, its kind of fun and I am thankful I got to have one of every holiday with my FI.

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I had an 18 month engagement. I think for me… 8 months would have been perfect. I had a lot of time to change my mind, but I also got first pick of everything and could shop at my leisure for bargains.

    Post # 12
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Ps Congrats!

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    If you have the $ (as in you won’t need the extra year to save without seriously impacting your standard of living) I say go for it this fall!  People plan bigger weddings in less time and looking back I bet you’ll be so happy you did!  As for what to do, I’d get a venue ASAP then book other important vendors once you have your date set in stone (aka when you have the paperwork for your venue signed).  The first vendor I would book is your photographer, they fill up fast, followed by your caterer if one is not included with your venue.  I’d also get Save-The-Dates in the mail within 2 weeks of booking your venue since you’re cutting it close, and the end of the summer/early fall is when many people like to travel, and you don’t want to have guests book vacations or other events when you want to have your wedding.  

    While this is all going on but after you book your venue, you should be looking for and purchasing a dress!  Those can take some time so you want to make sure you have time to get the one you want!   

    Post # 15
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    Blushing bee

    It can be done in 3 to 4 months if you want it badly enough!  Just pick an off day, like a friday or sunday heck even a thursday if need be.  If you are felxibie and diligent with oyur planning you can do it quick..personally I prefer shorter engagements.  I think alot of times people get cuckoo with their planning and out of control with their “wants” and “needs”..it doesnt have to be that hard!  good luck:)

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