Engagement gift didn't arrive – do I ask about it?

posted 2 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
3331 posts
Sugar bee

I don’t think it’s rude since she actually told you she sent it and to expect to get it on a certain day. I would, however, wait a few more days to ask about it- I don’t know where you live, but my mom often sends me things through the mail and more often than not, they tell her it will arrive on a certain day and it comes in a few days after.

I’m assuming she meant last Thursday, in which case it’s not super late yet, so I would give it a few more days…

Post # 3
9859 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

NOTLBride:  if she told you she mailed it and it was to arrive on Thursday I see nothing wrong with following up.  Just tell her what you said ‘you mentioned at the party you’d sent something, I wanted to let you know that nothing arrived’.

I’ve had to do the same thing with my grandmother (She sent me a cheque for my birthday that never showed) and my grandfather (he’d forgotten to mail it even though he said he had).  It’s a little awkward but it’s better than not saying something and having whatever was sent lost forever/stolen and the gifter thinking you’re ungrateful for not thanking them.

Post # 4
721 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

NOTLBride:  can you check your registry to see if gifts were bought?

Post # 5
864 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

NOTLBride:  since she actually told you she’d sent something and when to expect it, i’d follow up. but i would wait a few more days since i know at least personally, i usually run a couple of days behind from the time i tell friends to check their mail and the time when they should probably actually check it. oops.

i’d send her a thank you note for the wine, and include maybe a one line thank you in advance for the thoughtfullness of sending something additional (and that you look forward to receiving it). i dunno.

Post # 7
3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

She made a point to tell you its estimated arrival. I’m betting she would like to know if it doesn’t arrive. I know it’s super awkward to mention, but you know her best. If she asks you about it later, will she be annoyed that you didn’t let her know? You’re sort of screwed either way you choose, lol.


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