Post # 1
At my engagement party (about two and a half weeks ago), my Aunt (from out of town) let me know she’d sent us a gift in the mail, and that it would arrive on Thursday of that week. She also gave us a lovely bottle of wine at the party.
The gift never arrived in the mail — and I’m wondering if it’s awkward/tacky to follow-up with her, and confirm the address she sent it to? I’d never want to come off as gift-grabby, but given that she not only told us what it was she was sending, but when it was meant to be delivered, I think it’s safe to let her know so she can follow-up with the store?
I’m worried maybe she hadn’t bought it yet, and decided the wine was enough, and I’ll come off as rude or pushy. BUT on the flip-side, it seems silly to let her gift stay lost in the mail when she could follow-up with the store (especially since it sounded like it had already been purchased).
Thoughts? Anyone been in a similar situation?
Post # 2
I don’t think it’s rude since she actually told you she sent it and to expect to get it on a certain day. I would, however, wait a few more days to ask about it- I don’t know where you live, but my mom often sends me things through the mail and more often than not, they tell her it will arrive on a certain day and it comes in a few days after.
I’m assuming she meant last Thursday, in which case it’s not super late yet, so I would give it a few more days…
Post # 3
NOTLBride: if she told you she mailed it and it was to arrive on Thursday I see nothing wrong with following up. Just tell her what you said ‘you mentioned at the party you’d sent something, I wanted to let you know that nothing arrived’.
I’ve had to do the same thing with my grandmother (She sent me a cheque for my birthday that never showed) and my grandfather (he’d forgotten to mail it even though he said he had). It’s a little awkward but it’s better than not saying something and having whatever was sent lost forever/stolen and the gifter thinking you’re ungrateful for not thanking them.
Post # 4
NOTLBride: can you check your registry to see if gifts were bought?
Post # 5
NOTLBride: since she actually told you she’d sent something and when to expect it, i’d follow up. but i would wait a few more days since i know at least personally, i usually run a couple of days behind from the time i tell friends to check their mail and the time when they should probably actually check it. oops.
i’d send her a thank you note for the wine, and include maybe a one line thank you in advance for the thoughtfullness of sending something additional (and that you look forward to receiving it). i dunno.
Post # 6
OMGMrsW2B: She’d bought it from a cute independant store near her, so unfortunately there’s no way to check a registry.
I think I’ll wait until the end of the week, and then try to find a way to politely mention that I remember her mentioning sending a gift, and wanted to make sure nothing got lost in the mail.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
She made a point to tell you its estimated arrival. I’m betting she would like to know if it doesn’t arrive. I know it’s super awkward to mention, but you know her best. If she asks you about it later, will she be annoyed that you didn’t let her know? You’re sort of screwed either way you choose, lol.