(Closed) Engagement gifts

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
2440 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

No I don’t buy presents unless I’m invited.  We also didn’t really receive any.  We didn’t have an engagement party and we probably got like 3 cards in the mail.

Post # 4
10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Your IL’s are definitely being ridiculous. I’ve never purchased anyone an engagement gift. I’ve actually never even been to an engagement party. I guess they’re just not popular in my circle. The only person who I can see myself getting something for is my Maid/Matron of Honor when she gets engaged but that’s only because she’s my best friend.

Post # 5
1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We had congratulatory cards (just cards, no gift) from family on my side, a couple congratulatory emails from his side and one gift we know is on the way from his extended family. The gift we’re receiving feels unusual, but they’re wonderful people and really want to help us out. Ya can’t argue with that.

We are particularly close to this couple and they’ve been wonderful to my Fiance while he was deployed so there’s a history of generoisty. Maybe his family just does those things? Who knows. It’s still weird they asked you to register. That would have felt wrong to me as well. They’re probably just really, really excited for you.

ETA: Thinking back more my BFF got me a wedding planning guide as an engagement present, and took me out for dinner. She gives a bridal guide to all her friends who get engaged, but that’s not quite like registering for a gift.

Post # 7
629 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We got engaged about a month ago. Our “party” consisted of a few friends going out to Applebees the night we got engaged. 

We haven’t recieved any gifts, or even just congratulation cards… So nope no engagement anything here. 


Post # 8
2425 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think it depends on the family/region. We didn’t have an engagement party or anything, but all my grandparents, aunts and uncles got us engagement gifts. We got a microwave, set of cookware, wine glasses, some pretty vases and decorative bowls, picture frames, etc. It was really nice and thoughtful of them and something I hadn’t expected, but my mom says that is what they always do. My extended family is all in Long Island/NYC, but not sure if that matters.

Post # 9
40 posts
  • Wedding: July 2012

Wow, that is so nice of them! We didn’t receive any engagement gifts (besides a few wedding magazines from my friends) and I’ve never given engagement gifts. It must be a regional thing.

Post # 10
1426 posts
Bumble bee

Never heard of that UNTIL one of FI’s friends gave us a $50 gift card for a restaurant right after we got engaged with an “engagement card”. Oh Hallmark, you’ll come up with any excuse for people to buy a card… ANYWAY, We thought it was nice, but didn’t understand the point. That was the only “engagement” gift we received. Funny thing is, that same friend was invited to the shower, and didn’t send a gift to that. We figure she thought she did her part with the gift card.

Post # 12
2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I got an “engagement beer” the night I told my BFF and her husband that Fiance & I were getting married. 🙂 Also, she gave me a bunch of wedding magazines to get me started, which was great.

We made a registry before our e-Party. But we didn’t know we were getting an e-Party when we made it, I was just following the “timeline”. We’re not expecting engagement gifts. 

Post # 13
43 posts
  • Wedding: November 2012

We got cards and 2 gifts that i was shocked and exited to get. It was not expected bc we did not have a party. I think if someone want to give you something great but defently not expecet . I got a lenox ring holder from my moms best friend for when im cooking.

Post # 15
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

@Stammie16: I guess at least if these people don’t get you a shower or wedding gift, your Future Mother-In-Law will hound them! 

Hope your shower is amazing 🙂 

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