Post # 1
Dear whoever is outthere,
he ended our engagement…I’m so heartbroken. It’s been 9 years…I don’t even know myself out of this relationship. I slept all day yesterday….went to sleep early Last night. All I want to do is sleep. I am in so much pain right now…I can barely breathe or even stand. How can a human being possibly experienced this much pain And survive? I miss him so much…I still want to marry him. Ladies I honestly don’t know what to do. Can anyone possibly help me get thought this because I don’t think I can. I was planning a future… A home…kids…a lifetime of memories with the man that I have loved for 9 years. he believes that I am not financially secured…I am not a go getter…and that he needs to push me to do everything. He feels like he has since we have met. For the first time today I am not wearing engagement ring…and I’m hurting so much. I wish I could leave…go somewhere else. He is not coming back…and I feel like its my fault. I should have known this was going to happen…I should have broken this off a long time ago. Can I possibly fall in love again? guys I can’t bear this pain. Please help.
Post # 3
That’s how I felt when my ex told me he never really intended to marry me.
Six months later, I met FI. I could never have imagined someone so incredible in a hundred million years!
You’ll get through this, and you’ll find someone WAY better!
Post # 4
You WILL get through this. He sounds so similar to my ex. He would tell me those same things which not only hurt but confused the hell out of me. I knew I was doing what I wanted and that I had ambition. Maybe they were just not HIS ambitions. It made me realilze we simply were not compatible. Knowing that helped me move on to find the one for me!
I know it hurts like crazy right now, but just like a physical wound heals with time, so do emotional wounds.
Maybe he’s been stifling you for 9 years and it’s TIME to find yourself now. Let yourself sleep and cry but get excited about your new life and new possibilities and finding your true soul mate. Please don’t lose faith. Heartbreak has happened to all of us at one point or another.
Big big hugs!
Post # 5
It may seem bad now but i truly believe that it will get better! I pray for comfort and I know something better is instore for you. #BIGHUG
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC
Im so sorry, sending hugs and im so sorry – heartbreak is horrible.
Get up, have a long hot shower, eat something, do something today … step by step start to put yourself together again and its ok id you dont manage it the first time just start from scratch.
Try to continue, I know it hard, stand up and try and be everything he said you arent, not for him but for yourself. With time youll learn to enjoy doing things with friends and just having a good time loving you but theres no rush. Cry when you need to and Just start to do normal things again.
Post # 8
@butterfly1988: And by the way…saying you’re not financial secure is BS. Love doesn’t count dollars!! I helped my SO through debt and he helped me right back until we WERE secure! He doesn’t sound like a supportive partner, does he?
Post # 9
So sorry you are going through this! Break-ups are so hard. And it’s really soon now. Give yourself some time to seriously mourn, eat buckets of ice cream and lie in bed being miserable. But at some point FORCE yourself to go out there, do fun stuff. And talk talk talk about how your feeling. It is a major relieve.
Even though you don’t see the light at the end of the tunnel yet, there is a light flickering there and you will reach it. You WILL feel better, new oppurtunities will arise, you will meet new people and you will feel happy again.
Post # 10
It may not seem like it now, but he did you a big favor by ending this before it became a marriage and then a divorce.
You will find someone who is wonderful and perfect for you. Someone who focuses on your good qualities the most.
Stay far away from this guy.
Post # 11
Thank you for the encouragement. I can barely stand this pain….and even though I don’t see a light at the end of the tunnel I will somehow find it. I just can’t believe it’s over. I can’t believe I will never see him again…I will never get to walk down the isle. I had bought my wedding dress already…I put it back in the box…I will be return it soon…I’m just not ready to do it yet. I haven’t eaten since yesterday morning…I’m just not hungry. I didn’t even want to get up to go to work this morning. Knowing the fact that he will never return breaks my insides. all that is playing in my head are his last words…we were supposed to have gotten married this year and we are not.
Post # 12
I’m so sorry this is happening but as previous bees said, you will get through this. It hurts like a b*tch right now but things will eventually get better.
Biiiig hugs to you !
Post # 13
Very sorry to hear you are going through this. It happened to me too. My ex and I were engaged when I was laid off from work. His mom told him to leave me because I wasnt working. So, he did.I became homeless for one year and met my current SO who helped me get the job I have now. I even have my own place again now!!!! I hated men for a three years. Now I have a man who’s three times better than my ex lol As for my ex? He is miserable. I got a new job and just got promoted Thursday. My ex knows my SO so he hated the fact that someone still wanted me anyway. My SO is about to ask for my hand in marriage.
YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS. And you will get married. Please inbox me if you ever just want to talk.
Post # 14
@butterfly1988: were his last words about you not being a go-getter? Get angry not sad! Sadness is the first step but soon you will get angry at his idiocy and finally you will be indifferent. In your OP you say it is your fault. Why do we always put the blame on ourselves. You don’t feel like this is his fault? Will you find love again? YES! Bigger and better than you ever imagined because now you are armored with the knowledge of what it is you don’t want in a man. You don’t want someone like your now-ex. You will never make this mistake again. You are stronger with this knowledge. Please eat something 🙁
Post # 15
oh OP I feel so incredibly sad for you. i went through something similar about 8 months ago. And it DOES hurt, and you cant eat, sleep or even breathe sometimes. But it DOES get better. Look after yourself, just get through one day at a time, and eventually you will realise that you laughed today, or you didnt automatically think “what would he like” when youre out buying food shopping. As for loving someone else – that will come in time when you are ready. Work on loving yourself right now, this isnt your fault, he has to take some responsibility for his decision and action. You are beautiful and strong, and you will survive. And remember, you are grieving, this is a process, let your emotional and physical self do what it needs. Cry or scream if you want, run or sit under a duvet; dont feel guilty because of how other people think you should behave. Take as much time as you need. Nothing is more important than you right now xx