Post # 1
Less than 2 months before our wedding, I decided to postpone. My family (who was footing the bill) has been very supportive. I’ve been feeling for the last few months like this might not be the forever-relationship that I thought it was. I kept expecting for the feeling to pass, and it never did. I felt an immediate sense of relief when I decided to postpone the wedding. My FI was angry and upset at first, but took it well. He’s being relatively supportive of me.
I don’t know if we’ll get married after this. I don’t know if I still want to marry him. We live together and our finances and lives are tangled up together. It’s a very difficult time, and at the same time I’m very glad that I did what was best for me, no matter the emotional cost.
Post # 3
Keep your head up girl. I was in the exact same situation and i also postponed. I’m really happy to hear that your family is being supportive. Good luck!
Post # 4
((hugs)) And gotta say that I’m proud of you for postponing… I can only imagine how difficult it must of been and the stress leading up to it. Definitely better to postpone now though than have issues later down the road.
Hope everything works out for the best.. for you and him. I pray that you two would both grow in this time and that you would have the wisdom, strength, and encouragement to do what you need to do in the days to come.
((hugs)) again 😉
Post # 5
((hugs)) i hope everything works for the best.
Post # 7
It sounds like you made a very difficult but very important decision. It’s better to not marry if you are not sure. Best Wishes.
Post # 8
Wow it takes one he’ll of a woman to even admit this to yourself. You did the right thing, good for you
Post # 9
@Mollytov: Wow, it’s great to know someone else out there is in a similar position. It is really difficult, and sometimes I just want to throw in the towel and be single again. I’m glad to hear you and your FI have come through on the other side. Now that I’ve broken the news to my FI, I feel like we’re in a new part of our relationship, it’s more real, it’s better overall, but it’s more difficult at the same time.
Post # 10
I am really proud of you for doing this. I can only imagine how upsetting this is and you are incredibly strong for doing this. Stay strong. There is a light at the end of the tunnel.
Post # 11
@eholland: I guess we have more in common than BIg Love 😉
i also often think my life would be/could be better as a single woman. But then i think about all the big things i want in my life and my SO pops up in my head and i couldn’t imagine anyone else being there.
Do you have the ability to go away by yourself? Maybe a little relaxing vacation would do you good? Time to think and destress. I went to New Orleans by myself for 2 weeks and i came back never wanting to leave his side again! LOL. (lucky him 😉
Post # 12
@eholland: It sounds like you did the right thing for you. It’s important to always “check yourself” and make sure you are truly happy. You are taking the steps to do that. I do feel bad for your fiance, but it’s better now than day of or after the wedding. Be sensitive to him now as well, take everything slowly. Best of luck to you