Post # 1
My boyfriend of four years and I will be getting engaged next weekend. I’m excited about it but also nervous. We get along great and our personalities complement each other. We have talked aboutwhat we want out of life and have similar goals. I love him and feel like I can completely be myself with him- good and bad. We’ve talked a lot about the engagement so it’s not a surprise. At the same time I feel nervous. Will we be happy together for 30+years? Wedding planning also seems very stressful! Did any of you bees feel similarly excited and anxious at the same time during your engagement and wedding planning?
Post # 3
I was a little nervous before we got engaged, but once we actually did, I felt 100% amazing about it! I always get really nervous about big life decisions and I never doubted I should marry my FI, but I wasn’t sure if I was ready and was just really nervous. Deep down you know if he’s the one and it sounds like yours is! I’ve been engaged now for 4.5 months and it’s been wonderful, seriously rainbows and butterflies wonderful. Wedding planning hasn’t been stressful and I feel even closer to my FI than ever before. Good luck!
Post # 4
@RunnerBride13: Thanks RunnerBride! I think there is so much pressure with wedding planning in general these days. I am also a person who gets anxious generally about major life changes, and I don’t like to be the center of attention. It can sometimes feel like if you aren’t the type of bride who has been planning her wedding since she was an infant than there is something wrong with you! I do feel more excited about it than I’ve ever been before though, but those little twinges of anxiety pop through and it makes me feel doubt. Like if this was perfect and ‘meant to be’ wouldn’t I not have any stress and anxiety at all? I think it’s important to remember that feeling stress doesn’t mean it’s the wrong decision. It just means I’m the kind of bride who will have a little anxiety! When I can step back and calm myself down, I know my FI is the one for me!
Any other Bees out there want to share their stories of pre-engagement or wedding planning stress?
Post # 5
I think what you are feeling is normal. As my engagement became closer and more “real” i felt similar thoughts. Same now as the wedding gets closer. As long as they are fleeting thoughts that go as quickly as they come I think it’s normal. Marriage is a huge decision and transition – I’d personally be more concerned if the anxious thoughts you’ve had weren’t there. It should be thought about very carefully and from every angle.