Post # 1
Good morning Bees,
Over the weekend I went incognito and posted about my relationship issues here. I got a lot of really great advice, most in line with what I’ve been thinking. I don’t want to link the posts in case someone I know (or my former FI) finds this, but I just wanted to say thank you from the bottom of my heart to all of you for not only helping me out with that post, but being there through the year I’ve been here. This community is amazing and such a gem – I haven’t known many places like it on the Internet.
My Fiance and I decided over the weekend/last night to end our engagement and put our relationship on hold. We both need time to grow and figure out who we are as individuals before we can think about being together and forging a lifetime partnership. Looking back, I know we rushed into the engagement and marriage. I’m still trying to figure out my thoughts and how I feel about everything right now. I’m overwhelmingly sad one minute, calm and hopeful the next. So who knows? It’s still so fresh and new, I know that I’m going to feel so much over the coming weeks and months. We’re still figuring out what we’re going to be to each other, but I think for the time being what we need is to both be separate.
Anyway, as much as I would love to stick around here at least for now it’d be too painful to be surrounded by so much wedding stuff. I’m not going to close my account, but I won’t be posting anymore. Who knows, perhaps in the future I’ll be back to plan my real wedding?
I wish all of you the best of luck with your weddings and lives. You’re some of the classiest, most lovely ladies in the world 🙂
I’m friends on MyFitnessPal with a number of you – I’m still working hard toward my weight loss and fitness goals. If anyone else would like to join me on there, you can find me under this same username.
Post # 3
Wishing you much luck and love darling! Do what’s best for you and please keep us updated when you feel like stopping by 🙂 We’re all here for you! ((hugs))
Post # 4
Aw, I’m so sorry to hear about this, but it sounds like you made a decision that you are truly content with and made peace with the situation. You have been a great supporter on here, and I’m so glad we can continue chatting on MFP.
Good luck with figuring out the right path for you!
Post # 5
Much love to you!!!! You obviously are a strong woman and will do well – just focus on what you need in your life and what makes you truly happy and fulfilled. We’re all here for you, now and in the future. *hugs*
Post # 6
I’m sorry to hear about this, but at the same time, it takes incredible strength and maturity to come to such a decision. Most people get caught up in the hype of the marriage day itself and forget that it takes a lot to make a marriage work. Good for the two of you and I hope that you have a wonderful support system around you to keep you going as you navigate these new waters. Much love!
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride's residence
Best of luck and tons of warm wishes!
Post # 8
Hope you’ll return (soon) in a HAPPY place! Take some time to yourself and see what happens, good luck 🙂
Post # 11
I’m so sorry to hear that you are going through this. You sounds like a smart and brave woman and I admire your courage to do what you feel is right for you. I wish you the best of luck in the future and hope that someday you will be back to plan your perfect wedding.
Post # 12
Good for both of you for recognizing what you need to do and being so mature and aware. It definitely is not an easy choice but it sounds to be a very healthy one for you both.
Hope to hear from you again when you are ready, and in the meantime, much hugs and thoughts are on their way!
Post # 14
Thank you all, you continue to reinforce my love for this place 🙂
Post # 15
I commend you for making such a decision, it takes great courage and love to make these choices in life for ones own happiness and that of another.. you truly are an inspiration to others to think about entering into a marriage when perhaps they really should not be. (too many these days rush headlong into it and only end up in unhappy marriages and unhappy lives or eventual divorces).
I wish you both the best of luck and love, you will find your way as you are already holding the light above you 🙂
Post # 16
Good luck! I’m glad you did what was right for you.