Post # 1
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!
Is it traditional to have an engagement party? If so, do we invite friends or family or both? Should we expect gifts or say “no gifts bring food” ? Do we even serve food?
I just got engaged and I don’t even know where to begin… HELP!
Post # 3
Engaement parties are not very common where I live. If someone does have one it is thrown by friends of the couple, often just a BBQ at someones house.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club
Engagement partys are becoming more popular in my circle of family and friends.
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Post # 5
@FutureDrAtkins: it’s traditional in our group to have one – no gifts are necessarily exchanged, but it’s usually a cocktail party with hors d’ouvres to celebrate with friends!
Post # 6
Some people have them here, some don’t. I didn’t have one and really didn’t mind. At least around here, they’re usually just family and very close friends. Also I don’t think they’re usually hosted by the couple, it’s hosted by family or friends. I’ve been to two, at one I gave a bottle of champagne at the other I gave a card. I don’t think gifts are really necessary, some give them, some don’t.
Post # 7
I think it’s totally up to the couple if they want to have one or if a family member/friend wants to throw one. I doubt anyone would expect that you have one, but no one would think it was weird if you did. I’m having one, but mostly because our engagement is going to be about 2 years long and I want to do something sooner to celebrate officially starting our life together. I also think it’s a good way to have people meet before the wedding, like aunts and uncles from each side or friends from different times in your life. I’m really looking forward to my FSIL meeting my college and high school friends because I think we’ll all get along super well. I’m not expecting any gifts, and we’re having it catered.
Post # 8
I had an engagement party because my mom really wanted to throw one, otherwise I probably would have skipped it. We invited family and our bridal party only. I didn’t expect gifts but most people gave me money. I didn’t want to have an engagement party because I didn’t want people coming and feeling pressured to bring something for us.
We held ours at a restaurant and had a set menu for people to select from. Wine on each table and any other alcohol people wanted they had to cover themselves, otherwise their meal was paid for by our families.
Post # 9
We’re having one in 2 weeks! FI’s parents wanted to throw one for us. We invited a bunch of our friends and family. It’s not formal. It’s in their backyard and will turn into a pool party. I’ve told those who have asked that we don’t expect gifts. We never made formal invitations or anything. It’s just a “hey lets party” kind of thing
Post # 10
We had a joint house warming and engagement party 🙂 We threw it for ourselves at our home and invited family and close friends.
Post # 11
Eh, I didn’t want one because I feel like one “celebrate us” party (wedding) is enough. Around here showers are common too so it’s like, well there’s party #2, and the bachelorette for those who attend, so I feel like it’s a lot.
I was going to try and do a dinner with immediate families but it was looking pricey so I just said forget it. They never met, but they’ll meet naturally at some point lol.
Post # 12
Around here cash gifts are common for engagements gifts. I even heard of one couple having a big one at a hall, with a DJ and all. The bride was quoted as saying they were having it to get money for the wedding.