Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2015 - Victorian Gardens
So my FI’s grandmother is throwing an engagement party for us tomorrow. Well, today actually since it is passed midnight. I didn’t even ask for this party nor did I even think about having an engagement party. Don’t get me wrong, I’m very grateful that she’s doing this and it means a lot to me but I’m just not feeling it. What happens at this kind of party? What should I expect? She’s inviting the whole family. I hate being the center of attention!
Feedback is much appreciated.
Post # 3
@FutureMrsKap: Aww honey! Since it’s technically today, maybe you can just go and pretend like it’s a normal family get-together? Try the best you can to take the focus off of yourself and steer conversations in the direction of your family members? If all else fails, today will be over and tomorrow will be here soon! 🙂
Post # 4
I feel your pain. My sense is that engagement parties are really mostly for guests who mght not be able to travel or make it to your wedding…so, in a sense, it’s kinda about you, but it’s also a chance for them to get together. Now that I’m engaged, I like to ask other people about their weddings and ask what they liked/what crazy things happened to them/advice for plannng, etc. People love talking about their own weddings. So if you stick to that, that should be an easy way to keep the conversation going and focused on them.
Post # 5
Etiquette Snob here… lol
An Engagement Party is a traditional event held by a member of the family (often Parents) to Announce a couple’s Engagement to the rest of the Family, Family Friends, Friends etc.
It really can be a lot of fun, and a great way to “kick off” the Celebrations / Wedding Events that will happen in the months to come.
Most people are invited to “a Party” (Engagement Announcement is a SURPRISE) or they know it is an “Engagement Party” to honour the couple
In which case folks come to bestow their Best Wishes on you and celebrate. Gifts are not the norm (nor expected) altho it is not uncommon for someone to bring one. If that should happen be gracious, and discreet (put it aside so as not to embarrass anyone who didn’t bring one)
The main point is to celebrate… and have fun. Enjoy yourselves !!
PS… As Engagement Parties happen at the beginning of the process, there is NO EXPECTATION in regards to the Invites being invited to the Wedding or not… it truly is all about the couple and their good news… it is “assumed” that the Wedding Details are still to be worked out. So Couples usually say that if asked…
WHEN – “Still NEW we haven’t picked a Date yet”
OR “We are thinking July”
WHO / WHERE etc – “Haven’t worked out all the details”
OR “We are considering a Destination Wedding”… “small intimate Wedding” etc.