Post # 1
I’m recently engaged and I was just wondering how many of you have held engagement parties? I live in the UK and I’m still unsure if people even have engagement parties here (or if it’s mainly a US thing) but I love the idea as we are looking at having a longer engagement (2-3 years)!
If you had one, what did you do and how late after getting engaged did you hold it?
Post # 2
You don’t hold your own engagement party. Someone holds it in your honor.
Post # 3
My friends in Australia hosted their own engagement party.
ETA: they held it very soon after getting engaged. It was at their house and they served canapes.
This was the first engagement I’ve ever been too. I don’t think it’s a ‘thing’ here in Canada.
Post # 4
KateA17: I live in the UK and as far as I know you hold your own, but parents can contribute if they want. When I first got engaged our parents offered to chip in but we said no because I was living away for University at the time. Now it’s 3 years later, we’ve set a date for 1.5 years time and they’re STILL pushing us to hold a party. I personally feel like you should have the party just after you actually get engaged though so we’re not going to bother anymore, so I would have yours as soon as you’re able 🙂
Post # 5
KateA17: a friend of mine just had one, she got engaged Dec 2013 and the party was Aug 2014.
I think its best to have it within in 1 year. DH & I don’t believe in them, so therefore we didn’t have one.
Where I live, I am not a fan of them bc they are held to help the couple “raise” money for a wedding. I know weddings are expensive, but if you can’t afford to pay for a wedding the wedding you want then you should 1) not have one, or 2) have a budget friendly wedding – something you can afford (This is not directed at you – I am just making a comment about people who live in my city that do everything they can to have a wedding even if they can’t afford it) ON top of that, they make the party a mini wedding and its too expensive as a guest. First its the engagement gift, then the bridal shower, then the bach party and THEN the wedding! You can easily spend close to $500-$600
Post # 6
Thanks everyone. We think that we may just hold a small BBQ (while the weather is still decent) or go out for a nice meal with family- more as a celebration than a party!
Post # 7
We had one the day when he proposed 🙂 It wasn’t official party, just a casual with family with friends to celebrate. BBQ in the garden. But it was totally awesome 🙂
Post # 8
KateA17: UK been here! We got engaged 8th August, and we had our tea and cake garden party this weekend (6th Sep). I invited all that will be invited to the wedding day (80ish) and about 50 came. I made all the cake myself, and we had a truly wonderful afternoon. We’re getting married 9th January.
Apologies if this actually posts the picture sideways! I’m on my phone
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2015 - Church
KateA17: We are having a Golden BBQ for our engagement party and we have been engaged for 3 months. I think you’re supposed to have it within 6 months of being engaged.
Post # 10
I’m not sure but I’m newly engaged. Is it ok to hold your own engagement party? I would like one just to officially announce that we have made the next step in our relationship and got engaged and to celebrate this milestone with close family and friends and because we are looking at a long engagement.
I dont think of the engagement party as something to get gifts or raise money for the wedding. I believe that if we are getting married its at our own cost.
Post # 11
I’m an Aussie bee and we are holding our own engagement party. It’s quite common here. We are inviting a lot of people but will have a much smaller wedding, again, pretty common.
People generally don’t bring gifts to engagement parties here but just to be sure we specified no gifts on the invite.
Post # 12
I’m in America, we are hosting our engagement dinner. He wants to see his family and I want to know them better. I don’t have a family so I will not have anyone in attendance (god, that sounds more pathetic than it is). We are not expecting gifts but his family will probably search for our registry.
Post # 13
We’ll be hosting our own. Interstate and at a Holiday rental home most likely, very DIY and laidback… We are not even engaged yet but I am already stressing since SO’s family live ALL OVER the country (Australia ia a HUGE place…), my whole family lives close to us and the only reason we want an e-party is so our families (mainly our parents) can meet each other and so eveyone has met before the wedding (we will be having a small wedding and want everyone to have at least met by then).
Our wedding will be in the state we live in (my family won’t need to travel), so I wanted to hold the engagement party interstate (the state which 50%+ of his family live in), and have the rest of his family fly in from another close-by state if they can attend. I stress because a fair few people would be flying in from somewhere other than where it will be held, I would like to have invites out at least 4months prior to the party. If SO proposes right at the tail end of our timeline I will still be a full time student (stressful in itself…), flying to the other side of the country the same month for a week, and actively planning the e-party. Oh, why do I do this to myself? 🙁 lol
Post # 14
We are also hosting our engagement party! We are keeping it small, to only the wedding party, parents, and grandparents.
The main reason is so our families can finally meet and so the wedding party can get to know one another (we are having 7 bridesmaids and 6 groomsmen).
We got engaged in Feb. 13th, 2015, are having a backyard BBQ engagement celebration April 25th, 2015, and are getting married in May 2016. Someone earlier in this post mentioned that they see engagement parties as a way to ask for money for the wedding…I do not view it like that at all. Gifts and money are not expected at engagement parties. It’s a celebration! And also so I can hand out our Save the Dates. 🙂
Post # 15
We hosted our own, we were having a long engagement and pretty much every one of my friends had an engagement party (in Australia). We got gifts/vouchers/cash and we have also given gifts/vouchers/cash (not something you usually register for).
Ours was a pretty costly affair though and I’m wondering if we should’ve had a more low key celebration at our house or something looking back but it was a great night and people still talk about it a year later so I think we threw a great party. And a great way for my friends to get to know his friends a bit better too.