(Closed) engagement party?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I didn’t have one.  I’m pretty sure an engagement party is supposed to be thrown for you.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

Family friends are throwing our party. They’ve just started planning it, and I think it’ll be on 10/10/09.

All of the wedding books, however, say the rule is that the briide’s family throws the engagement party. Where I’m from however, nobody throws their own party– it’s always people outside of the family.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

About a week after we got engaged my fiance’s family took my parents and me to a Sunday brunch–I guess that was our engagement party. It was very very low-key but very nice. I think anyone who offers can throw it.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

we’re having one. my parents are throwing it. i think the wedding etiquette says the bride’s parents have the first go at it and if for some reason they can’t or don’t want to the groom’s parents can do it.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

This is embarrassing to admit, but we threw our own. It made sense in a way as we traditionally throw a party every spring. It was at our engagement party that we began to realize just how much our families didn’t care about our engagement and future wedding. My Fairy Godmother only came because she thought we were having a surprise wedding despite my protestations to the contrary. FI’s family stayed for less than one hour. Both sides of his divorced family stayed for less than one hour and MIL got into a fight with Fi in the kitchen over me. Fun, fun, fun. The party was lovely though and I think they’re a great idea if you have a decent guest list. We have real reasons for eloping.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We’re having one — my parents and sister’s family are hosting.  But I attended one where two of the BM’s parents hosted.  Even though tradition dictates that the bride’s family should host, I don’t think that applies much anymore.  It’s more just a reason for friends/family to celebrate and let everyone get to know each other.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011 - The Tribute Golf Club

We kinda lucked out, we already had a big party weekend planned with a bunch of friends from college this past April, & FI proposed one week before it.  So we turned it into a celebration and they surprised us cake and champagne 🙂

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

We were going to throw one ourselves because I had soo much beer and wine left from my brohter’s wedding.  When I mentioned this to my friend she told me I couldn’t throw this party.  So we compromised and she did it at her parent’s house, and we brought the beer and wine.

Post # 11
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Busy bee

We had one a couple months after we got engaged. Our parents threw it for us. And since they were the ones holding the party it got out of control fast. Went from 40 people to 80 in a heartbeat. But it was a blast and I am so happy they threw us the party. But you should realize that the drama that occurs from an engagement party will only multiply with the wedding.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My fiance’s parents threw us a fabulous engagement party in June in England (where he’s from) and it was amazing. We’re planning on getting married here, so it was nice to have a party in England and celebrate with friends and family there. Most of them will be coming over for the wedding, but it was great to celebrate with those who won’t be able to make it… like his grandmother and a few aunts.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We had one hosted by my parents. Engagement parties should be thrown for you. Usually the bride’s parents have first dibs, after that, if they do not decide to have one, the groom’s parents have the option, and after them, family and close friends. If the bride and groom are from different cities there are sometimes two – one hosted by each family in their respective city.

It is really nice to begin your engagement by being celebrated. I was told by a married friend to register beforehand (even though we were having a long engagement) and I was glad I did because we got about a dozen gifts off of it, so consider registering for a least a handful of items if someone does offer to host one for you.

Congratulations!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My parents are hosting our engagement party in October. I’m glad I registered too because FMIL just bought us a TON of the Kate Spade china I wanted as an engagement gift! Eeeeeee!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - Kindred Oaks, Georgetown

I think traditionally the parents of the bride are supposed to host it. However, mine don’t live near me so me and my fiance are having a small get together brunch this weekend for our close friends that live in town. I’m so excited! My fiance’s specialty is waffles and pancakes!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

We had an engagment/flight school grad/moving party and it was a great time.  Your family “shouldnt” throw you a shower because showers include gifts. An E party on the other hand is generally more low key and gift free and its perfectly acceptable for your own families (or even you) to throw it.

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