(Closed) Engagement Party Attendees

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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6209 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

@Corranthe:  It is perfectly fine not to invite all the wedding guests to the engagement party, as long as you invite to the wedding everyone who was invited to the engagement party. You don’t even have to call it something else.

Post # 5
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5481 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

In my social circle, engagement parties are not gift-giving events.  Gifts are usually given at the bridal shower or the actual wedding.  If I am understanding your question, you want to know if you’ll be breaking any etiquette guidelines by inviting only a few people to your engagement party… which is ok.  The only thing you have to watch out for is inviting people to pre-wedding parties who are NOT invited to the wedding.

Post # 6
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1217 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Of course!!! We invited ~40 people to our engagement party, and we’re expecting ~140 guests at our wedding. You can’t always invite everyone! Especially coworkers and people you don’t know as well, and out-of-town guests. I think a 20-person party sounds fine, and you don’t have to name it… you could just write on the invitation, “Join us for a party to celebrate the upcoming wedding of XXX and XXX” or something like that.

Post # 7
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882 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yes, more than fine! But like as PPs said…make sure that everyone you invite to the engagement party gets invited to the wedding. 

In fact, if you invite everyone to your engagement party, it’s like you’re having 2 weddings. In my experience and area (the Northeast US), engagemnt parties are close family and bridal party…congrats and have fun!

Post # 8
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705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

my wedding is going to have what we guess to be 120 people in attendace but our engagement party had about 20. I think that engagement parties are meant to be close and intiment (meaning only those super close and extra important to you attend) so i see nothing wrong with what you are wanting!

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yes, definitely.  You shouldn’t invite people who won’t be invited to the wedding, but it’s perfectly fine to not invite all wedding guests to an engagement party.

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