(Closed) Engagement Party Cancelation

posted 8 years ago in Parties
  • poll: What would you guys do in this situation?
    Continue with e-party plans : (5 votes)
    29 %
    Cancel e-party plans : (12 votes)
    71 %
  • Post # 3
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    8354 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    double post

    Post # 4
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I am sorry for your FI’s and your loss.

    My suggestion is to postpone it for a few months and then rethink when to have it. Right now, your FI needs time to heal and to grieve.

    Post # 5
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    715 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I agree with noritake.  You don’t have to cancel it completely…just push it back a few months to give yourselves a little more time if you need it.  Have you asked your FI what he wants to do?   What would his mom want you to do?  Do you think she would want the celebration of your engagement to stop cause she isn’t there?  It may be that you guys need something to look forward to…and this just might be it.

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2011 - The Viceroy

    I agree with the other posters.  Push it back and then see how you feel.  I am sorry for your loss, wishing you all the best.

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee

    I am so sorry, that is so sad!! I would say push it back, maybe you can have it later. Right now is a time to be there for your FI, there is just no room for a “selfish side” when there is the death of a parent. I’m sorry.

    Post # 8
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    1016 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I agree with PPs – we never had an engagement party and I never even think of it!

    The best thing to do for your FI’s sake and his family is to focus on them and their needs and then celebrate when it’s more appropriate.  I think the idea of doing something after the honeymoon is a great idea.

    Post # 9
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    2889 posts
    Sugar bee

    Talk to your FI and see how he’s feeling. You have plenty of time to still have an engagement party in a couple of months, even if it is not the begining of your engagement, you will still enjoy it!

    Post # 10
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    I never saw the point of them to begin with, that said – I think out of respect this would give the family an opportunity to focus on their greiving instead of celebrating with you two.

    Post # 11
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I would postpone it.  Your wedding isn’t until September 2011, so you still have over a year.  Give you FI’s family time to heal.  I’d even host it early in 2011, like January or Feb…  If you bought stuff already for the party, save it.  I think, in the end, your FILs will appreciate your gesture.  It shows you really care about them. 

    Post # 13
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    86 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    wait.. what would you be celebrating after the honeymoon if you had a party?

    … you cant really have an engagement party after the honeymoon.

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    @mandiehoward: is your wedding date correct, or are we missing something else that makes you say it’s September or not until after the honeymoon?  I’d say if you’re not getting married until Sept 2011, just push the engagement party back until you feel comfortable, like Jan/Feb. 

    We never had an engagement party, and I don’t think I really miss it.  If you don’t do a full blown party, maybe just have a wedding party get together for everybody to meet eachother when your FI feels up to it.

    Post # 16
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    1032 posts
    Bumble bee

    i like your attitude about having a party anytime and celebrating your coming home as husband and wife! Good call. I hope he is doing better 🙁 I’m sorry this happened.

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