Post # 1
I have wondered about an engagement party. Do I have one, do I not? Is it normal? My 2 best friends that are married did not have one but my old roommate had one. We are having a 2 year engagement. We have been engaged for 2 months and I still have not asked my wedding party to be part of my wedding yet. Even when I do, I’m 99% sure no one will offer to throw us an e party. Would you want an e party if you had a 2 year engagement? Is there a point? All of our friends and family know and have congratulated us.
Post # 3
@soontobehisbride: I, personally, would not do an engagement party. It kind of seems gift-grabby if your engagement is already public. Previously, engagment parties were thrown by the bride’s parents to ANNOUNCE the engagement of their daughter to a group of people (usually the bride and goom’s family) who had no idea it was coming. It is a family function, not the responsibility of the bridal party. And, in this context, it is not a gift-giving event because no one knew there was a specific occassion to celebrate until after they got there and an announcement made.
I recognize that in this day, anything goes, but — Particularly with having such a long engagement and your engagement already being public — I would wait and have a shower when the time comes. Do you really want the toaster now that is supposed to be to help prepare you for a marriage two years from now? And is that fair to your guests to do e-gifts, shower gifts, and wedding gifts?
Post # 4
I didn’t have one…went out to eat with parents to celebrate
Post # 5