- 9 years ago
- Wedding: December 1969
Back when my FI and I got engaged, my grandmother and my aunt offered to throw us an e-party with my aunt actually planning the party and my grandmother footing the bill. I unthinkingly said yes. We had a lot of stress over the fact that my aunt wanted to throw me the party she thought we should want, no the party we actually did want. My parents did not offer to throw me a party.
Now it is 2 months until the party, we’ve picked a place and the food (and FI and I were actually really happy with the way it was shaping up) and now my parents let me know that they are upset that they are being excluded from all party planning by my aunt.
My aunt and my dad (it’s his sister) don’t get along. A small part of me thinks she offered to throw this party deliberately as a way to exclude my parents. Now my grandmother is saying she’ll just send a check to my dad and my parents can throw the party. Unfortunately, my parents will be traveling up until right before the party, they don’t throw big parties, and I know that them throwing the party will result in a lot of stress on me.
My plan was to ask my aunt to still throw the party, and to just include my parents more. I think this will end up in everybody being unhappy, and I’m not sure my parents would agree to it.
Help! What should I do? Do I just let my parents throw the party and brace myself for all the stress? Or do I beg my aunt to throw the party and let her keep hurting my parent’s feelings?