(Closed) Engagement Party… does the guest list need to match the wedding guest list??

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

traditionally a formal engagement party would only include those invited to the wedding.  but in our case we threw our own combined w a christmas party and invited all our friends, but we’re not inviting everyone that was there to the wedding. if i could re-do, id probably mention at the party that we’re having a small family wedding (okay the guest list has grown to 180+ but its mostly family!). to answer the question, in your case i think it’s fine to have the party, especially if everyone knows the wedding is destination and family only.

Post # 4
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Newbee

I’ve only been to one engagement party, and it was the bride and grooms way of letting everyone that was going to be in the wedding meet each other.

When we finally get engaged, ours will strictly be family, and our closest friends.

Post # 5
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Newbee

Ooops… I forgot to answer your question.

I say, go ahead with your party planning! (Especially since some people won’t be able to go to the wedding, or even be invited.)

Post # 6
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Helper bee

Nope – If the engagement party is thrown by a friend or even family and not by the couple then it does not matter who is on the guest list.  The invitees should be friends of the couple but othere than that you are not obligating the couple to invite anyone.  That said, if there is anyone on the list that you feel would expect to be invited to the wedding because of the party then do not invite them.  There is no need to cause the couple problems.

If you are still worried about this issue maybe you could phrase the invite in such away that people realize they are having a very limited guest list at the wedding.   Or you could be sure to have that info mentioned at the party.

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