Post # 1
Okay, my mother in law is throwing us a small get together for the engagement party – which is what we wanted, small and intimate, later at night and such.
Well I just found out my FI has been telling everyone to bring their kids! HELLO!? The party starts at 7 and is 45 minutes out of town at his parents’ house. Not only that MY own kid won’t be there and I wanted to have an adult party not a kid’s birthday party which this is turning into with the number of kids now rising above the number of adults. Last thing I need is 15 overtired toddlers screaming and causing my party goers to leave early…you know?
We planned to have an awesome concert playing on the monster screen in the basement, and now I’m being told we may have to change it to Happy Feet????
What can I do to make people he’s already told to bring their kids, that it’s not a kid geared party? I’m so upset right now – I do kid stuff all day everyday as a stay at home mom, I need adult time!!!!
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2008 - A garden wedding followed by a tented reception on Mr. Hummingbird's father's property.
Yikes! I’ve gone through my own kids/wedding issues so I feel your pain. It’s especially hard when another family member is throwing the party to lay down the law because you’re not technically the one hosting the party.
As far as I can see it, depending on your time frame, you have three options:
1) Tell you FMIL/FI that as much as you love children, because the event starts slightly later, you’d prefer it be an "adults only cocktail party."
2) Grin and bear the kids and have your own adults only party later.
3) Have some sort of babysitter and corrale the kids into one area, either in the house where the party is being thrown or at another location nearby so you can have some adult conversation.
If you give people enough notice, they’re usually pretty agreeable so just take a deep breath and then tackle things head on. Good luck!
Post # 4
The party is Saturday….lol. I think I am just going to start telling people about no kids though because I want to just be a grown up for 4 hours, you know?
I am trying to move it forward and hour aqnd maybe those with kids will come and go before the adult time begins, you know?
Thanks so much for the advice!!!
Post # 5
If it was just your FI (and not FMIL) that was telling people "yeah, bring your kids!" and they were all people you’re fairly close to, you can always play the dumb-guy card…if he’s willing to suck it up and play along: "Wow, Joe and Jane, I’m such a moron, I told you to bring Joey Jr., but I’m a lame guy and didn’t know anything about the party plans, and it turns out that it’s not a kids thing."