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posted 3 years ago in Beehive
  • poll: Did you have an engagement party?
    Yes : (7 votes)
    44 %
    Yes, but I wish I didn't have one : (0 votes)
    No : (5 votes)
    31 %
    No, but I wish I had one : (4 votes)
    25 %
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    Blushing bee
    Miss Chocolate Chip      

    While I think an engagement party would be fun, I'm no sure it fits us. I was thinking of having somehting on a smaller scale, a MUCH smaller scale. I found a cute resturant none of my family has been to, and was thinking of having my immediate family (mom, dad, brother, sister) along with Mr. Chocolate Chip's immediate family for an intimate dinner. At the same time, it would be fun to celebrate with everyone... but isn't that what the reception is for??

    So tell me, did any of my fellow bees have an engagement party or did you do something a little different??

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    ms tofu    September 7, 2009   LA/OC

    I am glad I had one. We actually had it a year before our wedding date, and that was pretty much the break the ice between the two families.

    We invited his family to mine and there were formal introductions of our family members and relatives (aunts/uncles) and everyone just ate and chatted. It was very casual at home lunch affair. I also liked that it gave me an idea of what to expect! I say do it!! Even if you want it small. =) 

    (ours was "small" too.. but it was about 100 people..family only). 

     
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    Bumble bee
    Newport Nuptials    Fall 2010   Rhode Island / Massachusetts

    We had an unconvential engagement party, as in we broke ettiquette rules.

     Our friends knew we were stressed for money and that we can't afford to invite everyone to the wedding so they threw a party at a nightclub downtown for all of our younger friends. When they sent out the invites they mentioned it being a small destination wedding, and since not everyone will be able to celebrate they were throwing us this party for everyone to wish us well. They also said no gifts. It really was just a night out with friends to celebrate.

     It also happend to be my cousin's birthday so we told him to invite his friends too. We had lots of college friends that we haven't seen since graduation. It was so fun. We had a private room and got to hang out with lots of friends. I really enjoyed it and really appreciate what my friends did for us.

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    Mrs. DG    July 18, 2009   Seattle/Tahoe

    We didn't really have one.  We had a BBQ with 6 friends for my birthday, and that sort of worked as one... but we didn't really need one anyway.  Most of our friends and family are far away, so it's not very practical.

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    rnc620    June 20, 2009   STL

    I would really like to have one.  I didn't know if it was proper ettiquete to throw for myself though.  Is that ok?  We did have a pampered chef party last week so a handful of friends and family came over and got to see my ring. 

    I think your plan sounds great. Perfect forum to have a small celebration with your freinds and family!

     
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    Blushing bee
    Miss Chocolate Chip      

    Unless someone throws one for you, etiquette says don't throw one for yourself. My best friend was suppossed to be throwing us one, but she told Mr. Chocolate Chip and he vetoed it... He doesn't understand the need to have one and in his words "Isn't that what the wedding is for...." which I guess is a good point...

    Looks like we'll be doing the smaller version after all, but thanks for input bees!

     

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