Engagement party question!

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@nber0815:  If a family member is throwing the party then only people who are going to be invited to the wedding should be invited to the party. 

You need to sit down and figure out your guest list before you do literally anything at all though, so this just gives you an excuse to get it done asap. It really only took us like a day to get our list together and a week to fight it out with our parents. 

You also don’t need to rush and have the party right away. Our engagement party is this weekend… five months after our engagement. I do feel that that’s totally ridiculous since I am WAY over the giddy “yay I’m engaged!” feelings I had over the summer. But this is the date his parents chose. They wanted it to be after a bunch of other family weddings in October/November (also ridiculous.)

It’s a good way to get both your families together to meet (if they haven’t yet.) Ours haven’t yet so I’m mostly just dreading it… but I’m sure it will be fun in retrospect! Ours is also only like 20 people – parents, grandparents, siblings, aunts/uncles, and first cousins. We didn’t even invite our whole wedding party, just family + my MOH (his brother is BM.)

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Our engagement party is in March, so there’s for sure no rush. One of my parents friends offered to throw us one. Ours is that late because we have to travel for it.

In my experience, when someone offers to host a party in your honor – they tell you what size they are thinking and then ask for the guest list. That’s what has happened to me for both the parties I have been offered so far. I suppose this could be complicated by the fact that its your FMIL. 

Ours is going to be smallish – just the wedding party that can make it (aka local), some local family, and local family friends. I’m not expecting anyone to travel for it or anything. 

Absolutely every single person invited to the engagement party will be invited to the wedding.

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