Post # 1
Just a quick question – I was just reading a thread about an engagement part and a poster mentioned that you aren’t supposed to throw your own. How come you can’t?
My SO and I have been together for 10 yrs, have kids and a house together. When we get married we will be paying for it ourselves. If we have an engagement party (whenever we get engaged), I wouldn’t want any gifts from anybody, just a get together to celebrate our engagement. I wouldn’t expect anybody to throw one for us. I always figured we would plan it, etc. just a backyard BBQ party in our backyard or something like that. Why would that be bad etiquette?
Post # 2
because people like to get their butthairs knotted up about stupid stuff.
a shower is one thing, since you’re asking for gifts. but who gets engagement gifts???
I think in your situation, unless you have family and friends offering or begging to host for you, you should host your backyard BBQ and no one will even blink. You should have a piñata, too!
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May
I say do it! Why not throw your own? Look at it as a good excuse to get everyone together.
Post # 4
@ohnatto: lol love that answer! Thanks!
@strawberryshmoo: Thanks! That’s what I was thinking too! It’s always fun to have everybody get together!
Post # 5
We had our engagement party only a couple of weeks ago and we threw it. We ordered a bunch of invites, put on some food and drinks in a private function room, and had a great time!
My fiancee and I have been together over three years, we have a house together and hell, if we hadn’t planned it/paid for it, it wasn’t going to happen. Cost us less than $2000 and it was a ball!
We also asked for no presents – we ended up getting close to $1000 from family and friends in cash and gift cards so make sure that you keep an eye on things if you do start getting cards. 🙂
Post # 6
I’m in Australia – here the couple throws their own engagement party and it’s not seen as rude. Most people actually have engagement parties here, it seems not as common in the US judging by what I’ve read in the US. And here engagement presents are pretty standard.
Post # 7
diymomma: my FI and I plan out own engagement party
Post # 8
Lollybags: I’m an Aussie too. 🙂
It’s not a normal thing but it’s not an uncommon thing either. Like I said, we hosted our own.