Post # 1
So I just found out the that MFIL are throwing us a rather large engagement party, which I am little skeptical about since our wedding is two years away. Anyway, I was wondering if I should run out and register. My FI says we should just give his mom a “list of a few things we want” and she can let people know, but with a guest list of close 70, I feel like we should register. I realize that it isn’t required to bring a gift to an engagement party, but I feel like it’s pretty likely that people will. What have been your experiences?
Post # 3
Do people bring gifts to engagement parties? I don’t think I would pay for potentially 3 gifts for someone.
Post # 4
My family isn’t used to engagement parties, but my FI’s fam expects them. My FMIL is throwing us an engagement party of close to 150 people (crazy, I know!). I actually asked my FMIL if I should register for it, and she told me that normally the guests give money. I guess it’s a way for the family/friends to put money towards the wedding.
Also, something to think about- I’m told that china patterns/flatware etc can become discontinued, so it’s not recommended to register too soon before your wedding.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t register for it either. I’d just let people give you money/small gifts, if anything. Most of our guests didn’t even bring anything 🙂
Post # 6
We registered before our engagement party and we got QUITE a few things off the registry! Plus, FIL’s bought me some stuff off it fo Christmas!
Post # 7
I know this was posted a long time ago, but I’ll respond anyway!!
We had our engagement party last week and we did register. A few people asked us where we were registered, so we put about 50 things on a list at Target. Nothing too expensive, just stuff about $30 and under. I was shocked at how many people got us gifts!! We got tons of kitchen gadgets, a blender, a hand mixer, a REALLY nice pan with a lid, some picture frames, baking sheets and a ton of cash. We had about 50 people at the party. I didn’t think people would get us stuff, but the day before the party a lot of people called my mom to ask where we were registered. I say go ahead and put a few inexpensive things on a registry..just in case!
Post # 8
We didn’t get any gifts at our engagement party (other than my recently married friend gifting me all of her wedding/bridal magazines). I wouldn’t worry about it. Plus, if your wedding isn’t for two years, pretty much everything on your registry is going to be discontinued.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t expect gifts but I bet someone will look for a registry for you.
Post # 12
When I take a gift to an engagement party, I try to make is something wedding related. Like I gifted one of my bm’s who just got engaged, books I had gotten when I was planning and a new planner. I think two years out, it’s way too soon to register. I think people would be surprised if you were registered.
Post # 13
I registerd for my engagment party and I thought it was weird. I just did it bc I was told to but I actually got a few gifts off the registry. If someone gives you a gift at your engagement party they dont have to give you a gift for the wedding. If I did it all over I would have done it again or we would have gotten 25 bottles of wine as gifts.
Post # 14
I dont think engagement parties are typically gift giving events. As far as I have known, they are to simply celebrate your engagement with you, that is it. I have heard of a few people giving a little something to the B&G at these parties but its not typical as far as i know.
That is what the bridal shower is for as well as people traditionally giving money at the wedding. And people are even starting to complain about giving gifts and/or money to the B&G on these two seperate occasions.
Post # 15
We didn’t register for ours. most people didn’t bring gifts and the ones that did brought a frame or something personal for us. Plus if you wedding is 2 years away a lot of the things you register for now might not be available by the time your wedding gets closer.
Post # 16
I don’t think it’s appropriate to register for an engagement party.
In my experience an appropriate gift is a bottle of wine.
Post # 17
our whole registry was pretty much bought after our engagement party. pretty much everyone brought us a gift from it. if you don’t have a registry, there’s a good chance people will buy you things you don’t want.
Post # 18
This post is from a little while ago but I’ll go ahead and throw my two cents in anyway. I thought it was odd to register for an engagement party as well…that is until we kept getting phone call after phone call asking where we were registered. In the end, everyone except for just a couple of people brought a gift to my engagement party, and most were actual gifts from our registry, not money or wine.
Absolutely register – but for small things that aren’t too expensive. For example, I wouldn’t put your china on there, but I would put kitchen things like a utensil set or something. It’s good to give people direction, especially since so many people are going.