Post # 1
I am 23 and just engaged. A cousin and a few friends of mine are recently engaged as well and I’m navigating through the landmine of not copying anyone’s color ideas, not making our dates too close together, not using the same vendors, etc as to not step on any toes. But it gets a tough when there are several people to consider!
Here is my question. A friend got engaged about 6 weeks before me and planned their wedding date for about 16 months later. FI and I got engaged a couple weeks ago and are planning on getting married only a little over a year from now. They planned their engagement party for November although they got engaged a while ago. Well my mom wants to have our outdoor engagement party in October before the weather gets too cold. So far so good, so we planned it for 3 weeks before theirs and figured that’s a considerate amount of time to leave for her and our mutual guests. (we only have maybe 10 guest overlap) Anyway, FI’s mom just realized she has a conflict with that date and we need to move it back one week so that it will be only two weeks before my friend’s.
my question is- is this a problem? Am I over thinking? I really don’t want to wait to push it back to 3 weeks after hers because that would be close to Christmas. any input would be awesome!
Post # 3
I am at the age now where everyone in my circle of friends is getting engaged/married. If everyone waited x amount of time before/after someone else’s event, there would be a lot of 3 year engagements!
you have to do what is right for you and if your friend is a true friend she should understand.
You also said that only 10 or so people will overlap so it’s not a huge deal I say go for it.
Post # 4
@Pink Asawa: thank you! I was hoping it would be ok, but I wanted to make sure I wasn’t unknowingly being rude or breaking some etiquette rule 🙂
Post # 5
@FutureMrsT1221: Congrats on the engagement!
I definitely agree with Pink Asawa that there will be no problem with that. Maybe if it was the same weekend or the same day it would be one thing but two weeks?!
Honestly, if they are annoyed by having your engagement party two weeks before their own festivities they aren’t very great friends to begin with. Sounds like they waited a while to have their party (for whatever reason) and you guys are jumping on yours because the date is closer.
If they mention it just explain about wanting the weather to be nice etc. I cannot fathom a logical person being annoyed 🙂
Post # 6
You are over thinking it. This is completely fine.
Post # 7
@FutureMrsT1221: The engagement party isn’t the main event, the wedding is. In my opinion it’s fine even if they’re a day apart. 2 weeks is plenty.
p.s. Even for the wedding, for friends (as opposed to relatives) a week apart is fine. In fact I’ve seen it done a few times.