Hello bees! FYI: This is my first post ever! lol
Anywho… although my bf/”unofficial” fiance/FH and I have not gone through the whole proposal thing yet, nor have we announced an official engagement, we are going to get married sometime before April of 2013. We have been together for over 3 years now, living together for 2 of those years, and have already planned on getting married whenever I finish school and get my degree (which is still a year and a half away) but now he recently got a job with the military in which he will have to enlist and go off to bootcamp and that all will be happening in April. So, our plans to get married have moved up from about 1-2 years away to about 4 months away now. Not alot of time to plan a wedding!
Due to limited time, busy schedules, and financial reasons, my “pre-fiance” (as my friend calls us!) wants to just go to the courthouse. I have always wanted the wedding that every typical girl dreams about. So, we are thinking about meeting in the middle and having a very inexpensive “surprise wedding”! After we go through the whole down-on-one-knee-proposal action and announce our engagement, we are going to invite everyone (well in advanced of course) to our engagement party. Little will they know that half way throught the engagement party, we will announce that they are all “invited to our wedding…..tonight!” I will then run and change into my dress, he will be in his suit and after guests are led to the ceremony space and seated, i will walk down the isle, get married, and we all will celebrate!
Has anybody ever had a “surprise wedding” or have been a guest to one? If so, what did you think about it? Anyone have any ideas/tips?
Any other creative ideas on ways to announce that we are getting married right then?
I am well aware that people may be concerned about the fact that some people that are invited to the engagement party may not show up because they think “Well i prob wont go to the engagement party, but i’ll definitely be there for their wedding” etc.. Our plan is to invite them well in advance, and say something on the engagement party invite like “a special announcement will be made” or something along those lines. Also, we will spread the rumor that we are unable to have a formal wedding at this time so will be eloping/going to the courthouse so this “engagement party” will be our way of celebrating with our friends and family. Everyone lives close so all of our family and very close friends will be there, which is all that really matters, so if there is a couple of people who will not show up because “its just an engagement party” then my feelings are not going to be hurt! lol
Anyways, i’ll quit adding on to this book i’ve written! lol Looking forward to replies!
I’ve heard of couples doing this and thought it was cute! I would think it would be fun if I was a guest.
I think it’s a fun idea, and congrats, and I like how you’re thinking of those who might not attend. Good luck and have fun!
One of my friends actually did this this summer; she and her fiance had an engagement/housewarming party after they bought a house together, except the bride’s daughter announced in the middle of the party that everyone needed to go out in the backyard for the wedding! They had a couple of close friends who were in on the surprise and could help them out with getting dressed, preparations, etc. They both disappeared during the middle of the party to change, then headed out back for the wedding ceremony after the announcement was made and all the guests were outside. They also had a photographer, catered food, and a photo booth at the party – I heard some of the guests were thinking “man, this is a fancy engagement party!” before the announcement was made. :)
I am sure there could be some hurt feelings from people who decide to skip the party and thus miss out (“if I had known you were getting married, I would have changed my other plans!”) i think your plan of letting people know that there won’t be a big wedding in the future might up your chances of not having that kind of thing happen, as they’ll consider this your reception and will definitely try to be there.
Have fun and good luck!
Just fyi, I would assume the “special announcement” was a pregnancy. Otherwise I think you’re fine.
haha I figured people would think that the “special announcement” was a pregnancy too! lol which hey if that will get people to come then i’m fine with that! When we do make the announcement we might start off with “no, we are not pregnant…” lol
I think that sounds perfect. I do think people will be convinced that you are pregnant for atleast the next nine months … but I think it sounds good. Maybe word something about him leaving soon and wanting to see everyone to celebrate before he leaves. Maybe start the rumor that the wedding will be after Basic.
@Smc81: lol I might just leave out the “special announcement” part now that I think about it! I like the idea of telling them that wedding will be after basic! Might do that or just tell people that we are only having an immediate family only wedding and this is just a way to celebrate with everyone!
I love this idea!!!
The special announcement does sound like a pregnancy announcement though.
Maybe you could just tell them this is a really important day to you and please can they try their best to be there?
@becky2198: I would also think the special announcement was that your pregnant or something like that. It wouldn’t be even more reason for me to show up at the party though, and neither would you telling me that you were eloping.
I think it would actually do the opposite, it would feel really gift grabby to me if I was told you were eloping but yet you had an engagement party. I do however, think that anyone local would show up regardless. The OOTers on the other hand most likely wouldn’t make the trip.
Sounds like a cute idea but what is the makeup of your friends and family? Are they local enough that everyone could easily attend or will many people skip it because thwounded from OOT?
I think it’s a cute idea but why not just be honest and say Hey we want to get married before he leaves and just do it ‘normal’?
i guess I don’t exactly understand why you would want to keep it a secret….Wei mean my wedding is 11m away and I don’t think that I would be able to keep it a secret/not talk w my friends about planning/etc
my mom’s aunt did this. it was awesome. super casual, laid back. the only people who knew were her kids, my grandfather, and my mom and aunt. nobody else. they invited everyone over for a bbq, and called it their engagement party. but instead, they ended up getting married right then and there.
As a guest I personally wouldn’t like this. I’d want to have planned out accomodations, transporation if the wedding includes drinking, buying an appropraite gift and card – you won’t get any wedding cards only engagement cards. I donno, I just don’t really understand the whole concept. I agree with a poster above and just do the wedding in the normal way.
@becky2198: I think I saw 2 photos where this occurred. I’ll see if I can find them and post when I find them. :)