Post # 1
I got engaged this year June 2012, my mom wants to have an engagement party for us in October 2012, but we aren’t getting married till October 2014, yes i said 2014, not a typo. I feel like its a good idea atleast it will give me something to look forward to seeing how our weddings kinda far away.
If your all wondering why our wedding wont be till 2014 its because FH and I want to buy a house and be somewhat settled in before the wedding.
Any opinons? Should I tell my mom to wait until next year? I dont want people to think its ackward that we arent getting married till 2014 but we are having an engagement party in 2012 when the wedding in like 2 1/2 years away.
Also, should I start a small registry just incase with some small items incase guests want to buy us gifts for the engagement party or am I getting ahead of myself?
Any advice or suggestions would be helpful 🙂
Post # 3
In my opinion an engagement party is to celebrate your engagement, so I’m not sure how it could be too soon, as long as it’s following the engagement. I say go for it and celebrate!
Post # 4
Ditto to the other poster, when you get engaged you throw an engagement party. Then, simply do the bridal shower thing before the wedding:)
Post # 5
My Engagement Party is on Saturday, and we’re not getting married until Fall 2014 as well! I think it’s to celebrate the engagement, so it should be sooner rather than later. Plus, it also depends on who is hosting it. My FMIL is hosting ours, so I just went along with whatever she wanted.
We didn’t register, though, because 1-we would love money (terrible to say, but we’re saving for a house), and 2-we felt like that was asking for gifts really far in advance. Maybe that feeling is completely unfounded (I’m just paranoid haha), but I’m not expecting anyone to bring us gifts–if they do, that’s really nice of them 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
My engagement party was before we’d even set a date (or a year!)
I think now is the perfect time, and yes– I would put together a small registry, jsut to give your guests some guidence.
Post # 7
@juliette.eliza: Now that the party is so close, I do think that a small registry is a good idea, because we were asked by more people than I realised would ask if we had one. I think part of my problem is that engagement parties are a regional thing. Where I’m from, no one really has them, and I’ve only been to one before, so I’m very in the dark as to what is expected haha
Post # 8
I think October is a fine time. Not sure if I would register already or not though..
Post # 9
You can register if you want, but know that engagement parties aren’t really a “gift giving” event.
Post # 10
Maybe a small registry but only share it if people ask about it?
Post # 11
@cant.wait.to.be.mrs.d: Ditto. All the engagement parties I’ve been to have said something like, “Your presence is present enough. No gifts, please” on the invitation. I really liked that because weddings can get quite expensive for guests, with shower(s) and the wedding itself. I don’t think it’s appropriate to ask for or expect gifts at the engagement party. I wouldn’t register yet, personally. As a guest, I still bring a card and sometimes a bottle of wine, but it’s nice when a gift is not only not expected, but discouraged. It takes the pressure off guests and lets them know that you really just want to celebrate with them.
That said, I don’t think it’s too soon to have a party! Engagement parties are to celebrate the engagement, and it doesn’t matter how far off the wedding is.
Post # 12
You definitely still can have an engagement party!
It might be a good idea to register – some people bring gifts to e-parties, some do not. Don’t mention anything on the invitations (even ‘your presence is present enough’) because the only invitations gifts should be mentioned on are for showers. If people ask you can tell them about your registry.
Post # 13
Personally, I think it’s a little early to register. Plus, gifts are not a must for engagement parties. Just have the party and leave the decision on the gifts up to the guests. Congrats!
Post # 14
thanks for the advice ladies…i know that gifts shouldnt be expected, or listed on the invite but so many people are asking what we need so I wanted to give them some inexpensive options.
Post # 15
I would def. have an engagement party! And just to repeat what other people have said, I think the party is to celebrate the engagement, so I wouldn’t worry if the wedding is a year away! My mom is throwing FI and I an engagement party next Saturday…our wedding is pretty much exactly a year later. Since a lot of people (including myself prior to being engaged) are in the dark about engagement parties, in the invitations my mom included a little insert that said “no gifts please”…so I didn’t register, I figure we’ll save that for the bridal shower! So I would say go ahead and do it 🙂
Post # 16
We had our engagement party about 5 months after we got engaged and the wedding is still 2 years away. I think that engagement parties need to be soon after the engagement otherwise they turn into somewhat of a bridal shower. We did not register because we arent looking for homes yet and would have nowhere to put the stuff.