(Closed) Engagement Party…Is it possible for it to be too soon?/Should I register?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

In my opinion an engagement party is to celebrate your engagement, so I’m not sure how it could be too soon, as long as it’s following the engagement. I say go for it and celebrate!

Post # 4
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Newbee

Ditto to the other poster, when you get engaged you throw an engagement party. Then, simply do the bridal shower thing before the wedding:)

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My Engagement Party is on Saturday, and we’re not getting married until Fall 2014 as well! I think it’s to celebrate the engagement, so it should be sooner rather than later. Plus, it also depends on who is hosting it. My FMIL is hosting ours, so I just went along with whatever she wanted. 

We didn’t register, though, because 1-we would love money (terrible to say, but we’re saving for a house), and 2-we felt like that was asking for gifts really far in advance. Maybe that feeling is completely unfounded (I’m just paranoid haha), but I’m not expecting anyone to bring us gifts–if they do, that’s really nice of them 🙂

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

My engagement party was before we’d even set a date (or a year!) 

I think now is the perfect time, and yes– I would put together a small registry, jsut to give your guests some guidence.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@juliette.eliza:  Now that the party is so close, I do think that a small registry is a good idea, because we were asked by more people than I realised would ask if we had one. I think part of my problem is that engagement parties are a regional thing. Where I’m from, no one really has them, and I’ve only been to one before, so I’m very in the dark as to what is expected haha

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think October is a fine time.  Not sure if I would register already or not though..

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

You can register if you want, but know that engagement parties aren’t really a “gift giving” event.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Maybe a small registry but only share it if people ask about it?

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@cant.wait.to.be.mrs.d:  Ditto.  All the engagement parties I’ve been to have said something like, “Your presence is present enough.  No gifts, please” on the invitation.  I really liked that because weddings can get quite expensive for guests, with shower(s) and the wedding itself.  I don’t think it’s appropriate to ask for or expect gifts at the engagement party.  I wouldn’t register yet, personally.  As a guest, I still bring a card and sometimes a bottle of wine, but it’s nice when a gift is not only not expected, but discouraged.  It takes the pressure off guests and lets them know that you really just want to celebrate with them.

That said, I don’t think it’s too soon to have a party!  Engagement parties are to celebrate the engagement, and it doesn’t matter how far off the wedding is.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You definitely still can have an engagement party! 

It might be a good idea to register – some people bring gifts to e-parties, some do not.  Don’t mention anything on the invitations (even ‘your presence is present enough’) because the only invitations gifts should be mentioned on are for showers.  If people ask you can tell them about your registry.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Personally, I think it’s a little early to register. Plus, gifts are not a must for engagement parties. Just have the party and leave the decision on the gifts up to the guests. Congrats! 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would def. have an engagement party! And just to repeat what other people have said, I think the party is to celebrate the engagement, so I wouldn’t worry if the wedding is a year away! My mom is throwing FI and I an engagement party next Saturday…our wedding is pretty much exactly a year later. Since a lot of people (including myself prior to being engaged) are in the dark about engagement parties, in the invitations my mom included a little insert that said “no gifts please”…so I didn’t register, I figure we’ll save that for the bridal shower! So I would say go ahead and do it 🙂

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We had our engagement party about 5 months after we got engaged and the wedding is still 2 years away. I think that engagement parties need to be soon after the engagement otherwise they turn into somewhat of a bridal shower. We did not register because we arent looking for homes yet and would have nowhere to put the stuff. 

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