Post # 1
So we have had a very convoluted wedding journey. I had a Destination Wedding wedding with guests, cancelled it 4 months prior to the day, my dad was given a few months to live, he passed away very sadly (he was in a lot of pain), tried to replan a wedding with just family, family said they cannot come to the wedding anymore, eloped to a different country since they weren’t able to go anyway. We planned the elopement in 19 days so no real time to get proper engagement photos!
Back when I had the full wedding planned, I booked this photographer who lives out of town. We paid $300 for a deposit which is non-refundable. She understood the circumstances of the cancellation, and offered us engagement or bridal photos including the disc of images for the full $300 (normally that is extra).
Obviously these won’t be real engagement photos even thought that’s what she offered us.
She however said we need to wrap it up by this month. I just emailed her to tell her we are now married officially, so we’re just doing portraits. I’m waiting for a reply.
Would you just go to get nice photos anyway – even if you’re already married? We’d have to leave work early or take the day off (she only does weekday e-sessions), drive 2 hours to this location, make a long day out of it. We could bring our dog and do some true family portraits.
What would the photos be used for? I am not sure. Maybe holiday photos? Although I paid a pretty penny for wedding photos as well. Maybe just to have for our own use.
Post # 3
@sienna76: I’d just use them for portraits or whatever. Sorry to hear about your dad and the hectic wedding journey.
You could make it a fun shoot since you paid for it, make it worth it.
When I first read your post I was going to say that e-photos are usually to give your photographer a test run and it would be weird to call them e-photos if you’re already married, but I see how your scenario is different. Just go, have a fun, and at least the pressure is off since you’re already married.
Post # 4
I changed the title so that it won’t be so confusing! As far as she knows we’re doing e-photos with her this month, but she’ll read the email and see we are married already now. I hope that doesn’t change her offer!
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
If she doesn’t change her offer, go for the portraits. Engagement photos are called engagement photos… but really they are just pictures of you guys at a certain time in your life, it’s not like you need to wear a wedding dress and tux for them or anything. There’s no reason you can’t get them done post wedding! They will be great to hang up in your house, give to your parents, or just to have a reminder of when you guys were young and just got married.
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
I would go for the photo session. Having pro photos of you as a couple is awesome and will give you great lasting memories. You’ve had such a rocky road getting here, you should take some time and enjoy married life. We actually did something similar with photos… we still made it about us being married, and I got Mr. and Mrs. t-shirts from Etsy and some other fun stuff for props. Just have fun with it. I used one for a canvas, and we have others around our house.
Post # 7
I’d weigh the pros and cons for you, as a couple. I think having the photos would be lovely, and reflect your new family, however, I also sense that you don’t really feel like taking the time off to have these photos done, so Iguess I wouod have to decide i it felt like a waste of $300 if Ididn’t use the session or if it feels like a bigger waste to spend the time to et the taken. I don’t think there is a wrong answer here.
BUT now I want to hear all about your road trip! I hope it was awesome.
Post # 8
@mrsjesse: LOL! The trip was awesome!
I think I’m going to make a little blog with photos just to tell the story easier! We hiked 9 consecutive days in a row.
Wedding photo teasers will be ready tomorrow!
Post # 9
Hi sienna76: just catching up with you now (saw you on another topic) and am working my way thru your recent postings since your Wedding / Honeymoon… can’t wait to hear all about your Great Canadian Rocky Adventure !!
For the Photo Session… You could certainly use it if you want more casual pics of you and your Hubby… and your Dog. They could be awesome… and something different from the more traditional Wedding Photos that I am sure you had taken recently (BTW have noticed your new WBee Avatar / Icon Photo)…
As someone over 50, I look back on my life and have never regretted the times when we had professional portraits done… they are all fabulous memories. Sure they seem overwhelming when first starting out as the timeframes at least for us were close together (E-Photos – W-Photos – Honeymoon Photos – Baby Photos – Generational Photos) so we had a lot hanging up when we were young… and of course adding to them over the years (First Day of School Photos – Milestone Anniversary Photos – Family Reunion Photos – Kids Activity Photos… like Sports & Dancing etc – HS Graduation Photos etc)… BUT they did mean the world to us as we got older. Cannot say I’ve ever regretted purchasing photo enlargements.
On the other hand… you could certainly donate the item or sell it off here on WBee to another couple (that is IF your Photographer doesn’t have a non-transferable clause in the agreement)
Lol, as I had 2 Choices… needless to say I didn’t vote in the Poll
Hope this helps,
Now off to read some more of your recent posts…
Post # 10
why not do post wedding bridal groomals if you still got the dress spruce up your man and go look pretty!
Post # 11
Definitely do the session! As a photographer, I shoot a session with a couple (married or not) in the same style I would an engagement session. Honestly, it’s really JUST a portrait session of a couple. I always encourage people to get them because for most, aside from their wedding, they have no professional photos of them as a couple or in “regular” clothing.
Post # 12
You should get them! They’ll be nice to have to look back on later, married already or not. Just think of it as a regular photoshoot. You can frame some and hang them in your home or use them for your Christmas card or wedding announcements too.
Post # 13
Ah man! Well I emailed the photographer back on the 5th and it’s the 14th already – and no reply!
SO who knows at this point what’s going on! I’d take my $300 back if she decided she didn’t want to do it.