Post # 1
We got our engagement photos back today and I was soooooo excited! Since today is Cyber Monday I decided to take advantage of the chance to get 60% off and order our Save the Dates right away. Then my fiance came home and vetoed basically every photo. He pretty much hates them all. Since I wasn’t planning to send them out for a few more months, he actually wants to retake the pictures! Seriously?! I am so shocked and a little hurt that he dislikes them so much! How do I tell him we are NOT retaking the pictures with an amateur photographer 3 months from now? Should I just go ahead with it?
Post # 3
@Shantly07: just wondering why you don’t want to retake them?, is it just a cost issue?
I don’t think it would be a great idea to use pictures he dislikes so much. I know I wouldn’t like it and I’d guess that if roles were reversed neither would you. There are plenty of other things you can do for your save the dates and it’s probably better to find something you both like!
Post # 4
Partially because of cost, yes, I paid for the first round myself because I wanted this specific photographer and she wasn’t cheap. I think the pictures turned out great so I am frustrated that he doesn’t agree. You are right though, if he isn’t happy with them then we should see what we can do about getting some that he does like. I just really wanted “fall” engagement photos since we got engaged and will be married in the fall. When it comes down to it, it’s not that big of a deal to retake them. If we don’t like the new ones (done for free) then we can revisit the originals or try a different Save the Date option.
Thanks for the voice of reason haha I was just so excited about them that I was really upset when he wasn’t excited too.
Post # 5
@Shantly07: Thats so disappointing! it’s one thing for you both to dislike them, but for you to love them and him hate them 🙁 … I’m sorry! I hope you both LOVE your second round!
Post # 6
@Shantly07: I’m sorry. That sucks. is it possible he doesn’t love the way he looks in them? This happened with me in our engagements… I couldn’t put a finger on it, but I hated them. It turns out I think it’s very unattractive tilting my head back in a certain way, and also harsh side profile shots of my nose and chin. Fast forward two seasons and taking our Christmas card photos I made sure to not do any of those things, and asked the photographer to avoid a certain angle of me. Sure enough, I love them. All of them.
I’d ask him specifically what it is about each picture. Or find one he likes marginally more than others, and figure what’s different about the way he’s smiling, or whatever. So he can make sure photos like that are avoided.
I hope that’s the case, just so he’s not unhappy with your wedding photos too!
Post # 7
If you were in his shoes – the one hating the pictures – you’d want him to respect your wishes and retake the photos, too.
Post # 8
Does your FI have any self confidene issues? I hate the way I look in 90% of photos due to some issues with weight/confidence. It takes me a while to start to go “Yes, I like that one, and how I look.” If you sprung something like that on me, it would not go well.
Post # 9
Thanks everyone, I really wasn’t meaning to be bratty haha I certainly wasn’t going to order the Save the Dates if he was that against the pictures but I also wasn’t thrilled about the idea of doing all new pictures. He typically doesn’t have self confidence issues – I do, so it threw me off that he didn’t like how he looked in them. He gave me a really hard time about paying for the pictures and was kind of hard to talk into doing them because he isn’t much for mushy poses and stuff so I was discouraged. But, it does matter what he thinks so I’m just going to go with the flow and we’ll see what happens!