Engagement photos concern

posted 2 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 2
2151 posts
Buzzing bee

lumosplease:  This is a tough one, because (and I think you know this) the problem is in your own head. You’re looking to address the symptom (not liking your photos), but that stuff won’t go away until you work on the other part (not liking yourself). When I start to feel really bad about myself, usually the problem is that I’ve been thinking about ME, ME, ME too much. Volunteering or doing things for others helps ground me. I have done lots of work with people who have extreme disabilities. It’s hard to feel bad about your arm fat after spending the afternoon with someone who has no arms. I know that sounds snarky, but I don’t mean it in that way. Gratitude is an amazing thing. I’m sure your pictures are gorgeous. 

Post # 3
1300 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base

Yes!  Some people would love to deal with only an 11 extra pounds and worry about only their arms.  I can’t wait to see them.  I’m sure you will be beautiful.   

Post # 5
462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I am heavier than I would like to be and when I first saw previews of my engagement photos all I did was obsess over different body parts and my appearance. Then the next day I got all the photos and after sleeping on it my whole outlook had changed. I loved them. Obviously there are a few I didn’t feel were flattering, but for the most part I just saw how in love we are and how happy we look together. Now I love them and I’m actually really happy with how I look. Do I wish I were thinner? Sure. Am I dwelling on it? Nope. They’re great pics and we look great in them.

Hopefully you’ll have a similar experience!

Post # 6
8677 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

You need to fix what is going internally (In your head) in order to accept what the world will see externally.

Post # 7
1720 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think your feelings are normal as long as you don’t dwell upon it too much. At least, I hope it is, because I definitely had similar feelings about my photos. Overall, I love them but it was hard to stop myself from nitpicking my appearance. 

I’m sure that what you notice will not be noticed by others. They will see that you are your fiance are happy and in love! Also, 11 lbs is likely unnoticeable to the vast majority of people even if you notice every ounce. 


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