Post # 1
I’m new to the Weddingbee & the whole wedding planning universe in general. Once my FI (fiance? what does FI stand for, exactly?) and I became afianced, we learned there’s a whole new world we didn’t even comprehend, and it comes with a hefty price tag…for aspects I don’t quite understand the purpose of. For example, engagement photos: are they necessary? What are they taken for? I’ve seen many of yours, which are very loving & some are quite artistic, but I don’t understand why or if they are needed, but we’re open to commissioning them if they ARE necessary…please enlighten me.
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery
FI is techinically Future Intended… I believe 🙂
Engagement pics are not necessary, but I bet if you asked around those that didn’t do them would say they wish they had… I’m glad I did b/c they are great to have but they were also great practice for the wedding 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2018 - The Grand Old House, Grand Cayman
I’m also really glad we did them. It was a great way to test out a photographer before we committed to have them at our wedding. It was also nice to have e-pics for wedding related stuff (the backs of our photo-sharing cards, save the dates, shower decor). And its also nice to have pro pics of the two of us in normal (non-wedding) clothes.
Post # 5
They aren’t necessary, but most photogs have them as part of their wedding packages nowadays. The thing I liked about doing them was seeing how we meshed with my photog during the photo taking. It was also nice to see the work they did with our photos. Also, it helps to make you more comfortable in front of the camera if you are a bit shy. If you can do them, or get them as part of your package I would totally recommend it!
Post # 6
I’ve seen really great engagement pictures. However, I don’t think it’s entirely necessary. I don’t think I’m going to take any. If you’re on a budget like I am, spend the extra money on the photographs of the big day.
Post # 7
I’m really glad we did our engagement pictures. We have hours of photos of just the two of us together, whereas at our wedding, we have lots of group shots and shots with friends. We got about 30 minutes of just him+me wedding photography due to time constraints. And it’s really nice to have pictures of us in addition to the actual white dress/tux garb. We just got a lot of basic shots so it’s nice ot have more in our arsenal I guess. You could always do a photo shoot sometime down the road, too. It really helps you get comfortable with posing with him and the photographer, too. It really is strange posing for a professional =]
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2010 - Carlouel Yacht Club
If you’re looking into photographers at the moment, a lot of them might have an engagement shoot included in their packages. Most of the ones that I was considering included at least an hour shoot…so that they are able to get comfortable with you and how best to photograph you so they don’t have to figure it out on the day of! My photog (who I’m currently signing a contract for today…gulp!) actually has a 2.5 hour photo shoot time, which I am loving! I think it will be nice to have pictures of us not dressed in wedding attire…as weird as this sounds, I don’t foresee myself blowing up a huge picture of me in a wedding dress for my house, but I would definitely consider hanging a photo of the two of us wearing everyday clothes if it is the right pic.
Overall though, its up to you on if you would be happier with or without them. They aren’t completely necessary, but I know I’d be sad if I didn’t have them (I agree with Miss Frenchbulldog). If you don’t want to spend the money on the pro photog, see if a good friend of yours has a high quality camera and would be willing to take some pictures of the two of you…at least you would have something!
Post # 9
They are definitely NOT necessary. But like others have said a lot of times they are included in the package, but of course if you chose not to I’m sure you can swap it for something or have them pull the price of the engagement pictures out.
The reasons why we are doing it:
- get familiar with our photographer, with being behind a camera!
- We’re going back to our first date location and where we met so it’ll be fun to have that captured
- we actually foresee us putting up more pictures from the engagment shoot around the house than wedding day pictures.
- How often will your Fiance be willing to get dressed up and have a photographer take professional pictures of you two! 🙂
And, for a lot of people they use the engagement pictures for their Save The Dates as well.
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2009 - Battery Gardens
First, welcome to Wedding Bee and planning in general. I think you’ve got some great answers here already, so I’ll just offer my personal story.
Engagement pics ARE NOT NECESSARY. Part of the reason we ended up taking engagement pics was because we actually had very few pictures of the two of us together. I thought it would be nice to memorialize this time in our lives.
What was most helpful was the fact that my photographer at the time was still structuring his packages to INCLUDE engagement pics. We figured why not if it’s going to be included, and we’ll get an extra set of pictures.
This is all to say that there is no right or wrong for this. I think there is no "one size fits all" way to approach wedding planning. Good luck and welcome again!
Post # 11
I’m glad we did ours. It has given us a chance to get to know our photographer before the wedding. We were lukcy though, an engagement session is part of our package. We had fun.
Post # 12
Hi there! I’m actually a bee who DIDN’T do engagement photos, and I’m fine that we didn’t do them. We have so many pictures of just the two of us from our wedding, before and after, so I didn’t feel that they were necessary. I’m definitely not missing them either…so it all depends on your preference! We have plenty of pictures of us without having them done
Post # 13
They’re not necessary at all. We did them because our photographer offered the session to us free to make up for the fact that she couldn’t shoot our wedding as she’d just found out she was pregnant and due near our date.
That said, I had wanted to do them before this happened anyway, but like Ms. Swan said, this was mainly because we have so few photos of the two of us together!
Post # 14
I would put engagement pictures in the nice to have column if it’s in your budget. Like others have said already, it gives you a chance to get comfortable in front of the camera and work with your photographer before the wedding. It’s also great to use for wedding related sitems like save-the-dates, website and whatnot. We love our engagement session with our photographer and as photographers ourselves, we usually offer it in our packages, but can also remove them if that’s what the couple wants. Overall I think it’s to your benefit to have an e-session, but they’re not absolutely necessary.
Post # 15
No, I don’t think they’re necessary at all–in fact, I’ve heard that the tradition is fairly new and regional. But if you want them, then I bet you can find a way to have them! Like others have said, the engagement shoot is often part of the photographer’s package anyway. We got ours done by a photographer just breaking into weddings, but she puts out really fantastic work, so we’re hoping to use her as our wedding photographer. We did ours because we wanted to use them as save the dates and because we’ve always wanted nice photos of us as a couple, but we’ve never had the occasion to get fancied up to do it. It’s just a bit of silly and fun self-indulgence, but I’m so happy I did it.
Post # 16
We did not take engagement photos. What would we do with them? Once we’re married, it’s wedding photos I’ll display in my house.