Post # 1
So my FMIL said “are you getting engagement photos done?” to the FI. He was like uhhh??? Then he asked me about it and my response was “Crap! I knew it would come up!”
I’m not really a fan of them. I think they look staged, horribly staged. They remind me of bad acting in a movie, only its a still shot and there FOREVER.
My FI and I don’t have many pics of each other. We got some taken in a photobooth, and we had some random stranger snap shots when we were getting engaged, and thats about it. Neither of us like to get our pics taken, but I love takin pics.
We are both kinda goofy and I think us posing is just so fake. Thats not us. Plus the gazinging longingly into his eyes ain’t me either. Nor is public displays of affection so the idea of kissing him half a dozen times and it being on camera just doesnt do it for me.
So I guess the question is what do people think of them? Do they like them? Does anyone regret not having them done?
Post # 3
We’re getting our engagement photos done next month.
The staged/awkwardness can be a lot on the photographer, and if he/she is good they will work with you to capture more natural-looking photos.
Some people do very cutesy, posed stuff that they use for their Save-the-Dates and Thank You cards, but others just go out for a fun date (of sorts) and their photographer takes photos of them around town.
We don’t really have many photos of us together around, but it would be nice to have a pro pic of us dressed up and looking our best before we get all old, wrinkly and saggy.
Post # 4
We feel the same that you do about engagement photos, so it’s a nay for us. I don’t really see the point anyway, especially as someone who wouldn’t have fun with it.
Post # 5
Don’t see the point at all
Post # 6
I love ours!! 🙂 I wasnt a huge fan of gettingthem done, but was convinced when they said it was great way of getting to know how to work with your photogrpher, and get the awkwardness out of the way.. i was so glad we got them done in the end. They dont feel cheesy r overly posed at all 🙂
Post # 7
I completely agree with you. They are just so cheesy and put on. I always cringe when I see couples who do them. No offense to anyone, just my opinion.
Post # 8
I don’t think ours seem cheesy, but it might be personal bias. Though I do believe that some photographers do take cheesy photos. We had fun, and it was outside our comfort zone. I didn’t use them for save the dates. I just wanted them for us.
Post # 9
I really liked ours! We used them for our save the dates, wedding website and our guest book (a photo book). Also, I haven’t had pro photos done since high school graduation so it was good to get a feel for how it goes so that I don’t feel awkward on our wedding day. But if you don’t want them don’t get them. I don’t think many of my married friends did.
Post # 10
We had them done for two reasons:
1) We were filling out an application for me to become a landed immigrant in Canada and the form asked for e-pictures. I was like “People DO this?!” and THEN realized it was big business.
2) So we were contemplating doing it only for the sake of the application and then it turns out a friend to FMIL was taking a photography course at a local art college and they needed newly engaged couples for training to take these types of photos. So we had three students dedicated to us and ended up with a couple of CDs full of photos for free.
To summarize the experience – posing was awkward at first, but got easier after the first 30 min or so. Some of the photos are crap, others I actually like. However, I would never have paid for it – not even for a pro photog. Photos are just not that important to me.
Post # 11
I don’t see the point either. It seems like every couple years lately there is a new “must-have” thing that all couples are expected to do for their weddings, and it’s always expensive. First it was engagement photos, now everyone wants engagement videos and lately I’m seeing movie-style “trailers” for wedding videos. It seems like a bunch of nonsense to me (maybe because I’m introverted). I just want to get married and share a health insurance policy with my dude, not conduct a 3-ring circus!
Post # 12
I dont see the point this close to the wedding. Most people only use them for save the dates. I somewhat regret how much I spent on them,
Post # 13
Our engagement session was included with the cost of the photographer.
We did our photos really close to the wedding, and I do not regret it. I don’t think we looked too posey/fake, and I attribute that to the photographer. When we were shopping around, looking natural was important to me.
For me, the best thing about doing the engagement photos was that we felt more comfortable in front of a camera, and felt more comfortable with our photographer. Sure, we were put into some really weird poses (ie: asked to look at each other with our foreheads touching–> Weird!) but when the pictures came out, it actually looked pretty natural.
If it’s not part of your photographer’s package, though, then … meh? If you’re comfortable around a camera and it’s not part of the package, then don’t bother paying extra, if you don’t want.
Post # 14
The point is to build a working relationship with your photographer. Many of us offere them at no charge as part of a package to help get to know our clients and get to know their quirks on camera. It also gives you the chance to see what you both look like shot together. Engagement photos are only awkward or cheesy if you choose a bad photographer to shoot them. It’s not about an ” extra thing to make you buy. Most of us do it for our own working relationship and comfort with a client. Who wants to go in to a wedding day with all that stress and hurry and try to figure out things? It’s a great practice session.
Post # 15
@Jbbee: I suppose, but this seems to be a new thing and I never saw photos from days gone by where they were horrid if the photographer was good. And I dont think my mother in the 70s had any engagement photos and her pics turned out fine.
Thanks for your responses everyone! I know this is going to be an issue with some people in the family. The moms are buzzing about it. I’d never use them for our save the date because I am the type of person that doesnt need myself plastered everywhere. And maybe I am a tad sensitive but I know that the invitations will be going out to people who lost husband/wives or are single and I always thought couple photos were nothing more than a LOOK AT ME!
I havent seen the movie style photos. Interesting. I dont think I ‘d do one, but I wouldn’t mind checking one out 🙂
Post # 16
I feel the same way as you, but we still had them done. Our photographer was great, so they were as “normal” as possible, but we still laugh about the cheese. Basically it was included in the package, and we don’t have many shots of us together at all. I’m actually kind of relieved to have some, because now I can put them on the wedding website or wherever.