Post # 1
Two days ago the diamond fell out of my ring. Luckily I found it in my car and was able to take it to the jeweler’s to get it replaced.
less than 24 hrs before my diamond fell out, I called the photographer to schedule our engagement pics. After it happened, I immediately emailed her and told her we might have to cancel and I will keep her updated and thatthe jewler was willing to loan me a ring ( I was okay with this because they had a ring that was identical to my own the pervious week when I went in to pick up our bands). when I got to the jeweler the ring wasn’t there anymore. Then the jeweler realized my finger was too small for a loaner ring ( I wear a size 4.5). The only ring they had was one that wasn’t anything I would ever wear and the quality was different from my own. The jeweler told me to wait until i get my ring. i told the photographer what happenedand I don’t think she understood. She continued making plans for our pictures. I sent her an email tonight explaining that FI and I want to wait until after I get the ring back.
I feel bad and I don’t Know why. I feel ,maybe, materialistic and shallow. i defintely feel like i wasted her time. However, my FI worked hard to get me that ring and I absolutely love it. Even after a year I catch myself staring at it. I also waited a long time to get engaged.
What would you do?
Sorry for the typos my IPad doesn’t work well on the bee.
Post # 3
Don’t feel bad! You only get to do all of this once so do it the way you want! Just explain to her you were excited to get some cute ring shots and would really like to wait for you to get your diamond back. Plus, if this is your wedding photographer, this is an idea of what she’ll be like on your big day!
Post # 4
i think engagement pics are a good time to get pics of the ring too so i wouldn’t feel bad! without a ring it doesnt really look like engagement pics, just a couple who had pics taken
Post # 5
i didn’t have a ring when we took ours. it was just not a big deal to me.
Post # 6
@Sunnyinct: I would take the pictures anyway. I would have just worn a ring on that hand so if the light caught it in a pic it would be there. I guess it depends how many close up pics you want with the ring in the foreground.
Post # 7
There is nothing to feel bad about! Plain and simple: No ring, No pictures. Its sounds like you don’t want some random different ring in your Engagement pictures anyways unless it looks just like yours. Besides if you looked back at your engagement pictures you will always be looking at the “decoy” ring. If FI worked hard on the ring I am sure he would want you to wear the ring HE gave you to snap pictures of. Don’t feel pressured or guilted into doing the pictures before you get your real ring back. You will be happier if you wait. Congrats!
Post # 8
So…I guess I see both sides of it.
One: My ring needed some work (basic polishing/redip, nothing major), but I didn’t do it because we were getting e-pics the next day and I wanted my ring.
On the other hand, my ring is only visible in maybe four of our 80+ pictures, because my “good side” (ie, the side my hair is parted on so my face is visible) is my right side…so my right hand is the visible one in all the pictures, thus you can’t see my ring, except in the few pictures that were taken to show off the ring.
So…I guess that’s not really helpful, but hopefully gives you something to think about.
Post # 9
I would have done the EXACT same thing!
I’m sure she was just confused. It’s not like you’re cancelling–just pushing it back a few weeks!
Post # 10
@colorofmyheart: Same here. I was having a stone replaced and getting it dipped, so we didn’t have it either. I’ve never been a big fan of the whole “I’m going to contort my hand in a weird position so you can see my bling” pictures.
We ended up with beautiful photos of us that highlighted our love for each other, and showed our fun romantic side. My 3 favourite shots wouldn’t have shown my ring if I had it anyway. We were getting married, everyone knew we were engaged.
Post # 11
Honestly, the ring pictures are the pictures I look at the least from our engagement pictures. It is nice to have a pretty picture of it on a flower, but for the most part you can’t see. We didn’t do any of the typical “ring poses” though, so if it’s really important to you then reschedule. But just remember- you’ll be adding another ring soon enough! Those were the ring pictures I was more excited about. And he gets a ring picture too!
Post # 13
@Sunnyinct: Sorry for the bad juju.
Post # 14
@Autumnsnow: I don’t consider it bad juju… I could have lost the diamond and never found it.
Post # 15
We took a lot of e-pix with my ring! Don’t feel bad at all, I would definitely want to wait. I tried to resize these so they wouldn’t be too big:
Those are just a few of the ones where you get a pretty clear picture of the e-ring. It’s also in a bunch of pictures where you can definitely tell there’s a ring
Post # 16
I don’t know if it’s unusual, but we had two sets of engagement photos from two different photographers and neither took pictures of my ring. They were taken at the wedding though. If it’s really important to you reschedule, but in the grand scheme of things are you actually going to use a professional pictures of just your engagement photo?