Post # 1
So when we first got engaged, my fiance and I had no money. I don’t even know where he got the money for the ring that I do have. Since then, we have both graduated from school and now have a lot more money then we used to. I would love to upgrade to a bigger stone, but not sure how to bring up the subject. I don’t want to hurt his feelings, but I’ve always felt like the ring was too small. Also, since we have better jobs now, I feel like everyone is surpised by how small my ring is. I barely even wear it because I feel like it’s too small and also don’t want people to think that my fiance is cheap. But I also love my ring and what it represents: the tiny appt we lived in at the time and how little money we had. Ahhhhh….what should I do???
Post # 3
I didn’t vote because I think you need to talk to your FI first. Upgrading is fine as long as both parties are ok with it. Definitely try to bring it up as neutrally as possible. Have either of you mentioned a new ring at any point since you guys started making more money?
Post # 4
Did you reas that recent article on Napolean’s ring to Josephine? He was broke when he asked her so it was just a simple one. How meaningful it is! I think it’s so much more romantic than if they had later “upgraded” her ring to a big ostentatious one.
Post # 5
just get a really nice wedding band, like a diamond eternity band. or maybe a halo setting?
Post # 6
I would keep it that way to remind you where you start and where you are now, it’s your start line :), I think you don’t have you worry about other people think about your ring, as long as you love it!
If you really want to have a bigger stone, I would start by asking your husbands opinion on the matter, without impling that you want a bigger stone, just asks his opinion about and upgrade. 🙂 Good luck.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2014 - White Point Garden, Charleston, SC
I would keep it. I think if you want more bling you could get a fancy wedding band or even a new RHR! I understand a lot of bees have upgrades and I respect it, but personally don’t really believe in it. I think the ring you have is a nice reminder of what you two have been through together.
Post # 8
I say get a 3rd ring that goes with your engagement and wedding ring and just stack them. Maybe it could be an anniversary present of sorts so it will also have meaning.
Post # 9
@tvv203: i would pump up the wedding band ; ) get something that wraps around your orig Ering or talk to your FH and ask to upgrade your center stone i dont see anything wrong with that. may we see a pic of your Ering? you could always get a whole new ring and wear that one as a right hand ring
Post # 10
I say keep the ring you currently have if he’s sentimentally attached to it and save it to hand down to a future daughter, and get a whole new ring at the size you want. That’s what I did because my fiance didn’t like the idea of changing anything about the original ring, and this way I got the bigger size I wanted.
Post # 11
I would upgrade! I am not a very sentimental person though, I say if you want to upgrade then do it!
Post # 12
If he is ok with it, upgrade! I did!
Post # 13
@tvv203: If people ask, just say that you were broke college students (not that it’s any of their business). If they know you, they probably know you’ve been together for a while. That’s what I assume when I see smaller rings.
Just talk to your FI. I see nothing wrong with upgrading (and keep the original for sentimental reasons), as long as both people are on the same page.
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC
I dont think theres anything wrong with upgrades in general but it sounds like you are upgrading for the wrong reasons. You should be proud of what your FI gave you and what other people think should have nothing to do with it. If you get over that, maybe youll be able to updgrade without feeling so guilty.
My FI always wanted to upgrade but make the current diamond into a necklace which id wear all the time. Id like to upgrade on having our first or second child so it means something and id rarely take the original stone from around my neck.
Post # 15
@tvv203: Lets see the ring! I also want to upgrade my fiance knows this however I told him if we did I would want to keep my original diamond and put it into a necklace or something to still have it..
Post # 16
Talk to your FI. If he is ok with upgrading then consider it. But the fact that you barely wear it anymore, makes me think you should upgrade it or get a blingy enhancer or wedding band or something.
Or keep the original ring as a RHR or stacked ring and get a new one that you and FI pick/design together.