- 5 years ago
Hi fellow bees!
I am 26 years old and my boyfriend of almost 3 years is 30. It’s about that time… I am hoping to get a proposal by the end of 2013. Here’s the problem- in the past, before we seriously discussed marriage, I happened to mention that I expected my ring to be huge. Now that we are actually talking about it, I think he feels that he can’t propose because he can’t afford the ring I want. I have a few questions about this subject.
It’s always been my dream to have a large ring but now I am starting to feel ashamed of this dream because it makes me seem shallow to my boyfriend and to others. Should I give up on it? Because the real point of a ring is the meaning behind it, not the size. With that being said, I’ve always felt that a ring is one of the most important purchases in one’s life, because it’s worn every day for the rest of your life, and even then is often passed down through generations. A car and a house rarely ever stay in a family for as long as a ring does. So doesn’t that count for something? (just to clarify, in no way am I expecting a ring that costs as much as a house, it’s just a comparison)
I have begun to consider having a talk with my boyfriend about getting a much smaller diamond, one that we can afford now, and then upgrading for various anniversaries as we can make larger payments. Has anyone done this? It seems to be getting really popular. I am just afraid that my ring will be underwhelming and I won’t feel like it’s MY ring until years later when it’s “complete”.
Another way around it, I’ve heard, is to have the large center stone start off as a colored gemstone, and upgrade to a diamond later. Has anyone done this? Again, I am not sure if I would feel it is my ring until later. In both of these options I can’t help but feeling like my ring would simply be a placeholder.
Does anyone have any other ideas? Do you think one option is better than another? Do you think I am being absolutely ridiculous? Let me know please! And as always, feel free to post pics of your diamond upgrades or gemstone rings : )