Engagement ring and enhancer soldered before wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
952 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Merritt Winery


Em112:  I admit that it is not the norm to wear your e-ring and band(s) together before being married, but who cares!? Do you like wearing them together?  If you like it, it doesn’t matter what others have to say.  FI and I are non-traditional too. Some people find non-traditional things odd when it comes to wedding especially.  We get weird looks or even questioned sometimes.  It’s just something we have to deal with unfortunately.  It comes with the territory when you are non-traditional. Wear it however you love it!  Congratulations and good luck!

Post # 3
1349 posts
Bumble bee

That doesn’t make a lot of sense to me. Why did you get them soldered in the first place when you weren’t married yet?

If it doesn’t cost a lot of money, i would personally unsolder them. 

Post # 4
2358 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I bought my bands about 5 months before the wedding and had them soldered together about 6 weeks  prior…. plenty of time for the jeweler to redo them if i wasn’t happy with the soldering. I was thrilled with the result on the first try tho, so I chose to not wear my ering and bands for the whole month leading up to the wedding. Everyone is different tho.I would tell u to do what makes u happy, traditional or no. I would not unsolder them now, but I also would have waited.

Post # 5
339 posts
Helper bee

I’m not sure why you got it soldered so early (you loved it so much, probably), but I would say screw them.  Waste of money to get them undone, just to redo them again.

Do what you want to do, I’m sure the complainers are the types that just like to criticize, because we all know their lives aren’t perfectly traditional 😛

Question is…where are the pics!?!? 🙂

Post # 6
1317 posts
Bumble bee

To me it defeats the point of having a wedding band if it isn’t a symbol of the day you got married, but each to their own. it doesn’t matter what other people think if it doesn’t take away from the meaning for you. 

Post # 7
1029 posts
Bumble bee

My husband gave me my ERing with the wedding bands at the same time. I have always worn them all together. Do what makes you happy 🙂

Post # 8
3249 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1997

I agree with mazzoffee, but they aren’t my rings. I am just not sure why a person would wear a wedding band before they were married. And although this is really shallow, wedding band/s give you a chance to show off your ring twice – once for the engagement ring and then after it is paired with the wedding band. It isn’t anyone else’s business, but it is likely others will continue to question you about it. Only you can decide how much that will annoy you for the next year and whether it is worth taking them apart or not.

Post # 9
4591 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I am bringing my rings in today to get soldered together, as I will have a band on each side of my e-ring. It takes 2 weeks, so I’ll have them back a week and a half before the wedding.

During that time, I don’t plan on wearing it once I get it back – but if you want to… go for it!

Post # 10
98 posts
Worker bee

I personally wouldn’t solder them together because I like the flexibility of taking off either the band or e-ring.  You should do what you really want to do and forget about tradition.

Post # 11
1517 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

You can do exactly as you please. I wore mine together before the wedding. I did end up changing the band to a 19K (same style) just prior to my wedding and didn’t wear it until the big day – but that accounted for 4 days. lol – Do your own thing!

Post # 12
2782 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Em112:  Are you intending for the enhancer to be your wedding band?  Or having an additional band along with the enhancer?

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