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Okay, so I know we just had this debate not too long ago, but I have an interview coming up at a business that I know to be all male.  So, should I where my E-ring?  I kinda think in this situation it is almost an asset because it means I'm not there looking for a husband and will be less disruptive to the current working environment than a single gal might be.  What do you ladies (and guys if you are out there) think?

I work with all men, and in spite of the fact that my e-ring is over 2.5 ct total weight, with a yellow diamond as a center stone, it took over two weeks for my co-workers to notice it.  And actually, I finally had to pull my OFFICE MATE aside and practically stuff the ring down his throat, because I had had it by then - the grocery clerk had noticed, the librarian had noticed, my next door neighbor had noticed (all women, BTW).  I had decided that I wasn't going to *announce* my engagement at work, but was dying for someone to notice so that I could say something.  The moral of the story is, I think, that guys just don't notice things the way that women do.  I would go ahead and wear your ring.

And your point about single women in the workplace is well taken, especially if there is any travel or any late hours involved with your job. I work with men who have told me that their wives are way more comfortable with the amount of time we spend together (on travel, or working evenings and weekends) now that I'm married.  So it is definately a factor - if they do notice(!)

I would wear it.

You wouldnt want to get the job, come on day one, have someone notice and congratulate you and then you have to say "oh i've been engaged for months" or something along those lines. 

Good luck with the interview!

I have to disagree with previous poster. Being engaged is part of who you are now and that does not mean you are all girly about it. I have faith that you are professional during your interview even when discussing upcoming wedding.

I work in the office with all men and when I got engaged I was really surprised by how happy they were for me ( it's a bit of a different situation since I already work there but on the other hand my fiance is in different city so I am SURE the thought of me relocating crossed their mind even though nobody voiced it). They all wanted to see the ring and complimented on it. And we are in financial industry so admiring wings is definitely not part of the job, lol.

Good luck with the inerview whichever way you decide.

I've always worked in a male-dominated field, and I can assure you that if any of them even notice it (not likely) it will probably be the guys who spent time designing their wives' rings and want to see what other women got.  In other words, they won't care.  My last interview, they didn't even realize I was engaged or married (my wedding ring is my engagement ring).  The one before, the only person who noticed was a recently engaged woman.

I seriously doubt any male interviewee would be worried about this.   I think the best approach is to act like any guy would: it's no big deal.

Wear it. Personally I don't think they will notice at all unless one thinks you're hot and wants to see if you are taken. But more importantly Women SHOULD NOT need to hide/apologize/pretend to get a job. If a man doesn't need to take his wedding ring off to get a job then neither should I have to take off my engagement/wedding ring. Some might argue that that is just the way it is but I feel by taking the ring off we are contributing to the idea that a woman who is engaged, married, or has children isn't equally as capable as a man.  Maybe there are companies that would look at me differently b/c of a ring on my hand but if that's the case I wouldn't want to work for that company b/c they do not have good work/life balance. 

Sorry it wasn't your ideal job and glad you felt comfortable with your choice.  I actually work in Labour and Employment law, it is true they SHOULD NOT ask, but you cannot control what people think or ever know why anyone makes the decision they do. (to hire, to promote, not to promote etc)  Too hard to prove unless it is pervasive throughout the company-and even then, still tough.  

One thing I would suggest to anyone engaged or getting engaged... I bill my time hourly, and a computer program automatically clicks away the fractions of an hour and attributes them to the client for whom I am doing the work.  My emails, however, are another story, and although I do go through them at billing time...I WAS SHOCKED to find how much of my day is spend on wedding stuffs.  I have come to the conclusion that, you show me a girl preparing for a wedding and I will show you a girl with some level of diminished productivity! So between us bees...word around the office is-its a reasonably simple wedding, or mother is doing most of the work, or my cousin is a wedding planner so basically...I have VERY LITTLE TO DO!