Engagement Ring Dilemma!

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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1838 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@SeaOtter:  how long have you had the 2nd ring? maybe try to get used to it for a while instead of being quick to change things

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

@SeaOtter:  First of all, can you post pics of both rings?  I’ve never heard of a three-ring bride before the wedding, but it’s certainly not uncommon in married Bees.  You’ve got to do what makes you guys comfortable.  What about switching between the two you’ve already got?

She is always berating him not to spend a penny on me

Second, this part seems really inappropriate!  Does he agree with FMIL that you doesn’t deserve to have any money spent on you?  Does she pay for his things and doesn’t want her money being directed at you?  What a crazy thing for her to say!  You’re his FI for goodness sakes!

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@SeaOtter:  Can you share a picture! And I understand getting engsged young and money tight.  When I got engaged I was 23 and money was very tight! With thst said we got a ring thst we could afford! I will say we have since upgraded but that was when my husband got a new job and money was mich better.  You hace to get a ring thst fits you and no one else, you are theo e wearing it everyday! Hope thst helped some! I would love to see this ring!

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@li612:  

@ceebree:  From what I understand she only has one ring… she just changed the setting by adding a diamond halo to the original ring… is that right?

 @SeaOtter:  First of all, please know that this is said with 100% love, as I kinda know what you are feeling right now… Smile

It sounds to me that overall your issues are with others’ reactions to your ring… not exactly the ring itself. It sounds gorgeous, but (and this is just me, I could be totally wrong!) no matter what you do right now to this ring you are not going to “love” it.

I think you should just leave it like it is for the moment and think more about the excitement of the upcoming marriage. Sometimes others’ reactions do take away some of our enjoyment, but don’t continue to change your beautiful symbol of commitment and promise just to prove something to other people.

So… later down the road when you’ve been married for a few years, if this is something that still truly bothers you then look into changing it. But right now, I think you will be wasting money trying to fix something that has nothing to do with the ring itself.

 

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Wow that took me a long time to type out as I see you posted a picture of the ring while I was typing! lol It is gorgeous!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@SeaOtter:  that is extremely beautiful, i love it

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

@SeaOtter:  Got it now.  Only one ring.  What a stunner!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@SeaOtter:  How much time have you spent looking at alternatives to what you have?  Do you plan on this being your “forever ring”?  I think what you have is quite lovely, but I also understand your hesitance in wearing it to your outdoor activities or while you are working out.  Are you thinking of perhaps a bezel setting?  That would offer (I think) the best protection for that beautiful stone, so would be quite durable for all your activities.

As for FMIL, IMO she needs to mind her own business.  If you and FI are paying your bills, it should be no concern of hers where any disposable income is spent.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@SeaOtter:  That is beautiful. If it were me, I would not change a single thing!!! 🙂

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