(Closed) Engagement Ring Disappointment

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m not sure there is anything you can do short of buying your own ring to wear.  You told him you weren’t happy and he didn’t jump at offering to buy you a new one…

Post # 4
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8044 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@bandgrl90:  Ugh crappy situation!! You took the first step, which is letting him know. It sounds like he isn’t too pleased about it. I am not sure why he hasn’t just suggested to you that you go and pick something else out.

Is he worried about you seeing the cost of the ring or something? I think you need to know what you have to work with. Like if he can’t return it or re-sell it for anything close to what he paid for it, you’ll be working with an even smaller budget.

Crappy situation but I think you deserve to have a ring you love. You’re supposed to wear it forever. This is why I am a firm believer in not receiving a surprise ring/proposal.

I wouldn’t let this drag on, though. I don’t know if the return policy has expired yet, but the longer the situation drags on, the more resentment will breed from both sides.

Post # 5
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1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Could you sit down with him and discuss exchanging it together? Reiterate that you love the sentimate, but that the ring just isn’t your style.

Post # 6
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261 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Definitely just try to have a calm conversation with him about why you would want a different ring. I think it’s very reasonable to want something you love.

Post # 7
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4716 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

That is a bad situation to be in girl sorry! The only advice I can give u is to be honest and open about your feelings and try not to be too hard on him 🙂

Post # 8
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3832 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Been through this. Honestly stay off weddingbee and dont talk about it for a few months. I had issues with my ring in November and now i dont know WHY. I think seeing all the lovely rings on this site started making me feel bad. 

Its not a perfect ring, but i adore it because HE gave it to me. A few years after marriage if for some reason i am dying to change it we can talk about it then. 

And just leave it alone for awhile. He is hurt that is why he is making those comments. He needs time to move past the hurt feelings. 

Post # 9
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417 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You told him you didn’t like it, he doesn’t seem interested in getting you a new one, so I guess the only thing you can do is learn to love it.  It came from his heart when he asked you to marry him, let that be enough.  And when it comes time to pick wedding bands see if you can get one that pulls the whole thing together and makes you love the set.

Get yourself a nice RHR, but don’t insult and humiliate him by replacing your engagment ring on your own.  That’s not what an ering is about. 

Post # 11
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3064 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

If you two decide not to change it, maybe get a fabulous wedding band that you’re crazy about and wear the e-ring on your right hand, if at all, after the wedding.

Post # 12
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4605 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@bandgrl90:  Maybe once you’re further from the wedding/engagement then it won’t be as sensitive a subject and you could get it reset later on? Right now it’s probably too fresh.

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