(Closed) Engagement Ring fiasco…VENT

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
593 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

The resale value will always be considerably less than what you paid for it, so don’t let that bother you too much. But YUCK! The jeweler was dishonest about what he was selling? If it’s in writing that he sold you diamonds and they are actually moissanite, then there must be some sort of legal ramifications for that.

EDIT Sorry, I think I misread something. I thought you were saying it was presented to your Fiance by the jeweler to be something it’s not. My bad! Off to drink coffee now. Apparently I am still asleep.

Post # 4
767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

This is obviously a difficult situation, because he wanted to propose to you, and wanted you to be happy, so he picked a ring he thought was a good choice.  I would try not to dwell on the fact that this is the ring he bought. You sent him inspiration and he took it quite literally. But as you said, there’s nothing you can do about that now.

I think now you two should just decide on the best solution to getting a ring that you both find more acceptable. I think you should only change your ring if you are financially able. You could get an inexpensive stand-in ring in the meantime, or you could just wait and wear what you have until you’re able to upgrade. If you care about getting good quality, you might have to wait a little until you have the money to afford it.


Post # 7
1763 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I say wear it and love it for what it means to the two of you. And then in the future when you are able switch them out for different stones.

Post # 8
2 posts
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am sorry to hear about these people taking advantage of your fiance.

 I understand your excitement and disappointment when you got engaged. When my fiance proposed I was excited that he took the next step as well but so disappointed with my ring. I did not mention it to him at the time but I put so much importance on the ring I almost lost sight of what was important and that was us. Men sometimes do not do thier research as well as they should they shop on impulse at times. You can always upgrade later and pick it out together. We went to the Zales outlet and got a better quality ring and put it on the Zales credit card with no interest until we were able to pay it off in 18 months because it bothered me so much. We paid 1,500 for a 1.5 carat ring and that was after an 80% discount with coupons and a promotional rate.

In my case I fed into people saying “oh it’s cute” or “that’s it? , I thought he was saving up for a big rock”. I  let it get to me more than I needed to. Honestly there is nothing wrong if you do not like your ring you will be wearing it forever and we kept that in mind when we picked out the second ring.

Good luck in your wedding plans! Congrats

Post # 10
3063 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Aw I’m sorry about your situation! If it were me in your shoes, I’d do as you suggested to your fiance and go w/ a nice quality CZ for the time being. That way you will at least have a sparkley center stone until you’re able to afford a diamond (or a new ring completely) if you choose to, rather than a muddy diamond that makes you upset. Also, you won’t need to rush to get one before your wedding and will have more time to save instead of settling and possibly not being truly happy w/ your ring a second time. Best wishes to you and your fiance!

Post # 11
1645 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I too, would do what you had suggested, replacing the center stone with a high quality non-diamond stone. You keep the look of the ring you have, get the sparkle you want, and later can upgrade to a real diamond.

Post # 12
5891 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

i would also follow your own suggestion and get a nice CZ until you guys can upgrade.

Post # 13
47 posts
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m so sorry to hear about all that you two have endured!  I agree with the posts, that you could get a CZ until you upgrade.  Another option is to get a nice wedding band with all the glitz and glamour your heart desires, and wear that by itself until you get the engagement ring you want (perhaps as an anniversary present?).  After all, the wedding band is really what is the symbol of your union.

Post # 14
1956 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

Oh gosh, I’m sorry!! I’d be as upset as you are, probably even more (so kudos to you for not completely freaking out like I would’ve!)

That really, really SUCKS that your FH was taken for a ride by an online jewelry store…Here’s what I’m wondering…If the diamond is actually colored (I think if it’s below an “M” on the letter scale?) could you play that up with a new setting? Personally, I love colored diamonds, heck, I’ve seen ads for “chocolate” diamonds that are actually brown…

So maybe if you got a new setting with clear or chocolate diamonds in it, that would be a relatively affordable option and prettify your ring without having to go the CZ route? Basically, embrace the stone and figure out what setting will make it look the prettiest, not try and cover up or hide the flaws?

Also, any chance we could see a photo of the ring? I’m willing to bet it looks fine to the normal, untrained eye! 

Post # 16
159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

What if you got a plain gold band (cheapy inexpensive one) to wear with your engagement ring but a diamond band or something more blingy to wear on your right hand until you can afford a new ering?  Then when you get your new ring you already have a wedding ring…

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