Engagement Ring Issue

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 4
568 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Honestly, your ring is going to need to get repaired at some point. wether another pave stone falls out or you have to fix your prongs. That doesn’t mean the marriage will fall apart. I think you should just get it fixed and keep what he gave you if you are sentimental at all. I wouldn’t want a different ring than the one my FI picked out specifically for me. But that is my personal opinion.

Post # 5
4 posts

@Mircat:  The other rings you picked out are gorgeous in my opinion. I am very sorry that this has happened to you and seems to be distracting from your engagement. *hugs*


I do feel that you deserve more than something that is a promise ring. Every man who wants to propose to you should aim for an engagement ring (in my high-maintenance, honest opinion). While knowing he has spent more on a game console is rough, you should also remember that he did get you the ring. Nowadays, with the silly, tacky overly large engagement rings, society is becoming more obsessed with the ring than the meaning of engagement. While, I am not suggesting that you are too engrossed in the materialistic aspect of the engagement, I do think you should tread lightly in order to not hurt his feelings. If you don’t like the ring, you just don’t! You will have to wear it for the rest of your life. It might be easy for me to tell you that only the thing that is wrong with the ring should be fixed. The missing side diamonds should be fixed. And your ring should be sized. If neither can be done, then you should opt for the one of your choice. But in all honesty, I don’t think you would be happy with either of those options. Be honest, yet kind.

Also, I absolutely do not mean to be rude but the ring above looks like a less expensive ring comparitively [to the ones below]. If they are all $200  or less, your FI might be coming out ahead and get a great deal on some very elegant rings!

Good luck!


Post # 6
5482 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

I love the second white sapphire ring you posted!!

Post # 7
1896 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Mircat:  I think that you and he need to agree on what your ring should be…. But you should know that a ring, or LUCK, has no implication on if your relationship will work or not.  A broken prong or missing stone is a fact of jewelry, not a sign of ultimate divorce.  

Post # 8
5208 posts
Bee Keeper

@Mircat:  First…I really like your original ring. It is very pretty, and I can understand your disappointment with one of the diamonds coming out. If you are sentimental, I would just get it fixed and keep it. There will alays be the concern about the quality though, and loosing future stones.

Second…..I totally get where you are coming from with the irritation about his financial investment in your ring VS. his “guy toys”. I have a small diamond myself. I love it, and like you, I am not materialistic at all, BUT…..if hubby was buying big ticket items regularly and then spent half the cost of those on my ring, I’d be a little hurt too. It sounds like maybe it was something that he didn’t really have time to plan for?

I say get the ring you love! When rubber meets the road, its just jewelry.

Post # 9
7915 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

@Mircat:  I totally understand while you’re upset! I would want an engagement ring too, and if he can’t afford a diamond one, an alternative would be just fine. Maybe he thought a real diamond promise ring was better than an alternative rock engagement ring? Silly men. And the fact that he spent more on a game system or a cell phone would also upset me! 

normally I say be grateful and love your ring- but in your case I totally get it. Go for it. 

Post # 10
1108 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Wow — the rings you are considering trading for are soooo very different from what he proposed with. 


Post # 11
6788 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

I think it’s really important that you see white sapphires in person. Their opitical properties are much different than diamonds. That being said, have you checked out Etsy? There are some very unique white sapphire rings available on there. I’d check out that site!

Post # 12
101 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think the ring he got you looked like crap. It might be a bad picture, but all the diamonds look so white (not clear, but white). 

TBH, he needs to man up and dish out more money on the ring. If he had money for a stupid game, he has money to buy you a better ring. I’m not saying he needs to spend 5k on a ring to show his love, but seriously, $200 e ring? Wait, it’s not even an ering, it’s a fricking promise ring. 

BTW, if you are looking for sapphires, I would go for a blue/pink one. I actually saw a super pretty blue sapphire ring in sam’s for $200. 

PS. Sorry, I know what I said it’s kinda mean. But it’s how I feel. Feel free to ignore it. 

Post # 14
416 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think you should have something you really love, and without so much worry of losing stones, as you will be wearing it for the rest of your life.  

It would also bother me that he spent so much more on his toys.  That being said, with one of the sapphire sets, you would not need to get a wedding band later.  

I have seen the Asscher set in real life, and I love it!  I think this is the one with the Euro shank, which is cool also. 

Post # 15
2233 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2007

@Mircat:  I’m sorry you lost a diamond, that really stinks! I think your ering is pretty, it doesn’t matter if the store calls it a promise ring, your fi gave it to you when he proposed so it is your engagement ring. The rIng you have now looks like it would be hard to pair with a wedding band, so that’s something else to think about.

The white sapphire rings are pretty. I really like white sapphires, however, I would not choose a sterling silver ring for an everyday wear engagement ring, especially one with pave. Silver is soft and it bends easily I would worry about losing stones.

I really hope you are able to get a beautiful ring that you love! 








Post # 16
1261 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I dont’ blame you and I don’t think you’re being materlistic or anything like that.  I love the rings you picked out….let us know what one you end up getting 🙂

Congrats on your engagement!!

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