(Closed) Engagement Ring Issues!

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
1352 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would let him get you the ring you love! A lot of rings look similar, unless you’re like a weirdo who copies everything she does I don’t think she’ll mind. LOL 

Post # 4
3626 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think it’s a big deal to have similar rings. I really don’t think anyone would care or even notice.

Post # 5
32 posts
  • Wedding: October 2011

I wouldn’t worry about anyone else, even though it’s difficult not to take the reasons listed above into account. If you’re like me, you love to be different, and it’s hard when you feel like you’re piggybacking off of someone else. But, the important thing is that both you and your fiance love the ring on your finger. You’re the one that will be wearing it for a long time (if not forever!). Even if it’s similar to someone elses, it’s still uniquely yours, girlfriend. : )


Post # 6
573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Get the ring you love!!! Most rings (even custom made ones) borrow elements from rings they’ve already seen, so it’s not like you’re going to have a totally unique ring anyway. You’re paying for it and will have to see it every day, so get something you love!

Post # 7
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I agree with the previous posters! Also, what is the style of the ring? If it’s a really unusual style then it might be unusual if you both had it (but still, you should get the ring you want IMO). If it’s just that both your rings have halos, or something like that, that’s a really popular style right now so it’s completely normal.

Post # 8
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I know rings are all different, but to me it seems a lot of girls have rings that look VERY similar to one and another. Without putting their rings right up to my face I would not be able to tell the differences with them. So I think it’s perfectly fine and normal to have a similar ring as your Future Sister-In-Law. She shouldn’t be upset about it if she has a common ring setting.

Post # 9
2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Maybe have your boyfriend show the ring to your sister (without mentioning the concerns) and see if she notices it? If she doesn’t, it isn’t a big deal.

Post # 10
2808 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You should see how many other girls I know that have four prong round solitaires in white gold. Get what you love!

Post # 11
6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

get what you love because in the end you have to wear it – she will get over it if she even gets upset. there are only so many different styles of rings ya know? they can each be different but you have solitares and you have halos, 3 stone and so on…i’m sure it will be differenet enough.

Post # 12
7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I agree with everyone else, get the one you love!  How often, REALLY, are you and your sister going to be sitting next to each other with your hands near each other, over the course of the rest of your life?  🙂

Even if they are similar, they won’t be identical!

Post # 13
971 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

OMG sweetheart, I feel I went through this same thing almost!

Here’s my story, I used to live with a very close friend, and our boyfriends at the time also lived together, (cooky huh?) Anyway, we gushed about future stuff all the time. She had always told me she just wanted a yellow gold, solitare, princess cut. I on the other hand wanted a pave, halo, white gold princess. We showed our favorite pictures and gushed together. My boyfriend and I had done exactly what you have, we narrowed it down to three rings, with a clear favorite, so but we wanted it to be surpise. Well the clear favorite was my dream ring, white gold, princess cut, paved, halo. But of course the others were gorgeous too.

Well time progressed, and we did the roommate swap, and each of us moved in with our boyfriends at the time. Well…that was in the summer. About a month later, they got engaged…guess what her ring was…

a white gold, paved, halo, pincess cut. I sobbed, I was happy for her, but I felt a little shafted.


I knew because she got her ring before me it would be like oh look who can’t come up with his own ideas. He just copied my fiances good taste. SIGH.

Well at that point I had already sold myself on a cushion cut anyway so that helped, but we ended up going with my second favorite with a cushion cut….

and not to sound well materialistic, cause I really am not…but…my stone is bigger lol =P


I said all that to say this, I can realate to what you are feeling. Because of a lot of underlying issues we felt the best option would be to avoid a similar ring, but you need to go with your heart here, you have to look at that ring the rest of your life, make the choice you will be happy you made 50years from now. That’s what we did. =]

Post # 14
2031 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Get your dream ring, absolutely!!  If she’s a nice person that you both get along with, I’m sure it won’t be a problem because MOST rings look similar, especially if they have round or princess cut stones which are everywhere (and I love both).  If your SO and his sister are close, maybe he can talk to her and explain that he picked out a ring for you that he LOVES…but wanted to warn her that it might look similar to hers.  She probably won’t care.

My (first) husband proposed to me with exactly what I wanted, a princess cut solitaire.  2 of his 3 sisters also got princess cuts after seeing mine in person, and I was more flattered that they chose my favorite cut than annoyed that we ‘matched’.

Post # 15
11395 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Get the ring you love! She shouldn’t me mad (or atleast I wouldn’t be.) Almost everyone around mine & my husband’s age on his side of the family that is engaged or married has a princess cut or square engagement ring. We got engaged before any of them & my other ring was very different but after loosing it & getting a new one I went for a princess cut & I didn’t even think about their rings! 

Post # 16
1925 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think you should get the ring you want!  I wouldn’t worry about it!

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