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I think your co-workers are being petty and snarky. Obviously, they haven't heard of the old addage, "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all."
As long as you love your ring and am happy with it, who the cares what they say. And 1.5 carats is not too big...If it helps any, mine also has 1.5 center diamond with two diamond side-stones and an eternity band. Talk about gawdy -- but I love it. 
Wow...that just sounds like outright jealousy to me. I wouldn't worry about it - they're obviously just being catty.
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I wouldn't worry about it. They sound jealous to me. People will also find something wrong w/ your ring, no matter what. My aunt had the audacity to call me up and tell me that my ring is too small (0.8, my FI went for quality over size) and that I should demand a bigger one. As long as you love your ring, that's all that matters.
jealous to the max! one thing i've learned while planning is that your mother is usually right. and in this case, yours definitely is.
congrats, btw! i know i'd love to see pics of this "fake" ring!! =)
My engagement ring is 1.6ct and seriously I love it and thats all that matters. People love saying things to me too but brush it off...they are just jealous! You man did well
i completely agree with all the comments above. have you ever said anything to them about it hurting your feelings when they make comments like that? maybe you just need to firmly say that you love your ring and that you're getting a little tired of their comments. everyone's titled to their own opinion.
Unfortunately you will always encounter the people that will always feel the need to make someone else feel bad because of a "mine is better than yours" mentality. I say, love, cherish and flaunt your ring! It's a symbol of your FI's love and commitment to you! When people look at my ring they say, gee is that a carat? And I proudly tell them, no it's not (it's 0.75 carats), but I love the quality and not quantity! To each their own, please don't let the opinion of others get to you. Your Fi, loves you and if that's what he picked out for you, please don't make him think you don't appreciate it. I'm sure your ring is GORGEOUS and I'd wear the e-ring proudly regardless of its size! Congratulations and wish you the best of luck on your big day!
Wow! That really does sound like a group of petty, catty, jealous women. I'm sure they have to do that just to console themselves over their "dainty" rings. I would just say something along the lines of "My FI is so good to me. I'm lucky have such a great guy."
Wow, thats pretty nasty!! No, 1.5 is not "too big" or in the least bit gaudy!! Wear it with pride! =)
I do not think 1.5C however I have seen e-rings on friends with much much bigger diamonds than 1.5 and I will admit that it looked over-the-top. However, I know that my friends love their e-ring (because that's what they wanted) and would never say anything to them to dampen their happiness.
No need to worry. They are just being snarkey. 1.5 is not overly big or gaudy.
Catty much? Wowzas - I'm sorry to hear you had such a bad experience! If you love your ring, that's all that matters. Try to shrug it off if you can, it sounds like pure jealousy. Green (with envy) is not a good color on anyone! ;)
Thank you all so much for the support. I've felt so self conscious about my ring while I'm at work, that I feel like I should turn it to the inside. It's really hard because I wake up in the morning and just stare at it you know? I'm so happy and excited and so are our families, that it feels funny to get a whole different feeling when I'm at work. (guess I don't have to worry about inviting them to the wedding huh?) Thanks again!
No, of course its not too big! People say that when they get a tiny little half carat and want to pretend like that is exactly what they wanted! Mine is exactly 1.22 carats (odd, yes) and I was surprised he got it that big. Actually, everyone at work was like, oh my god, its huge blah blah blah...and really its not. Who cares what they think anyway, if you love it? Show it off as much as you can - don't hide it!!!
My e-ring is a .53 Princess Cut and it's perfect for me, exactly what I'd hoped for.
My business partner's e-ring is 2.0 Emerald Cut and it's perfect for her, exactly what she'd hoped for.
If you LOVE your ring (which I'm sure you do) then forget about those ladies. They clearly are attempting to "justify" their smaller carats by being tactless and rude. Don't allow their pettiness to affect you!
Cheers,
LORETTA*
1.5c is a great size and in no way too big! I would reference the old Seinfeld episode... just tell them "it's real, and it's spectacular!"
Hmmm these women are being quite rude and in-your-face about their reactions. I think it does sound like jealousy, though they may partially be stating their true opinions about the size of the diamond. But it's extremely tactless of them to do so.
My ring is also a 1.52 carat solitaire diamond ring. I personally think it is too big and I'm a little embarrassed by it, but that's just because it's not really right for my personality. I'm a pretty reserved person. I think it is a beautiful ring but I just don't like people's reactions to it. Every time anyone has asked to see my ring, their reaction is ALWAYS one of shock and their first words are usually, "wow that's so big." It's usually just the first thing that pops into people's heads and then they almost always follow it up with, "it's so pretty." So, to an extent, you might need to get used to the idea that others think it's too large, or at least surprisingly large - that has certainly been my experience. But it is tactless of them to go on and on about it and start talking about how much they like theirs better. That just smacks of jealousy and lack of manners.
i have a half carat and i think it's perfect for my personality... and our budget!! haha.
way to go on your rock!!! :)
My center stone is 1.5 carats and with the trillion side stones totals 2.1 carats. Although I know many women with similar and larger rings, I was very wary of flaunting my ring at the office. Mostly for fear of getting reactions like yours! My love for my engagement ring has become an obsession, but I don't like the spoiled and superficial feeling I get when others gather around me and use the words 'bling.' I literally hid my engagement and only told those who noticed my new jewelry on their own. To me, 1.5 carats is the ideal size because anything bigger than 2 can look gaudy on the wrong person. I very much understand where you're coming from and can't believe the tactlessness that you had to endure!
my roommate from college (and bridesmaid to be) has a 1.5 and its beautiful!! i think that is a good size. but of course it all depends on the shape of your rock and the size of your hand! i can understand how you feel though... i have yet to wear my ring to work bc i feel like people might talk!! (its 2.25) my fiance took all this into consideration before proposing and gave me a simple rose gold band to wear when i am at work. maybe you can do the same thing. of course my e-ring is prettier but i love the 2 rings just the same. :)
so, i just got engaged november 12th and my fiance gave me a 1.5 carat princess cut engagement ring, and i love mine and i do not think that is in any way too big.... and i am not a showy kind of girl, but u know what... i have waited 33 years for the right man to ask me to marry him, and he did perfect on the wedding ring for me... and as long as you are happy with your ring, no matter what size it is, ignore what anyone else has to say..... honestly, sometimes when i am showing my friends and if they have smaller rings then i do, theni feel kind of bad about showing it, but i know that their ring means just as much to them as mine does to me... so all that being said... congrats!!! :)
Congrats on your engagement!
According to this poll:
http://www.pricescope.com/idealbb/view.asp?topicID=54832
1-1.25 seems to be the average size of diamond for an engagement ring. And I don't think there's a huge difference between 1.5 and 1.25. However that's not an official, national poll ... But I'd think that if that many people have diamonds that are around your size then it's not that unusual.
If my fiance could afford it, I would love a diamond that is the size of yours! The diamond that your fiance chooses should reflect the financial situation that he is in ... I would not be happy if he had to take out a loan to get that diamond. I would think it's cool that your fiance probably took the time to save up for your diamond. And it's nice that it is not a very popular size, otherwise you would feel too common. Sometimes I think that if 100 people threw their rings in a pot with mine, I would not be able to pick out which one is mine because my ring is a plain solitaire and my diamond size is pretty common.
So the girls at your work are probably just jealous! Congrats and never mind those girls.
Sassygirl, I looked at your link and I think you may have hit the spot. Most of the women in my office have been married an average of 10-20 years. If you look at the styles back then, and the "thoughts" at that point, weren't diamond companies just starting the push of "her ring should be 2-3 times your monthly salary men" (Although I think that's a ton of pressure for the guys. Poor things get ripped when men's rings run so inexpensively!) But according to the "Rock talk" link you posted, and the conversation, a lot of if DOES have to do with age, location, and where you are in life, etc. So I should say that my fiance are in our late 30's early 40's. He is in law enforcement and I work with the state, we don't have any children (other than a cat) we've been dating for a while and just moved in together 4 months ago and we've both waited a heck of a long time to find "the one".
I've taken everyones comments into consideration and have really become quite pissed off at my co-workers. How extremely rude to be so mean spirited. I've gone through a week now of feeling badly and doing my best to even hide my happiness and my ring. I've found out some pretty interesting things over the "wedding talk" and have found out some backgrounds of the girls in the office wedding history. One got engaged while her husband was struggling to start a new business and hardly had any money. Another it's the second marriage for both of them and they didn't "go all out" the second time around. Another was pregnant and got married. I'm just finding out that, yea, maybe some of the spitefulness is regret on what they may have wanted and didn't get? (Does that make sense?)
I suggested that some ask for anniversary rings like the Today, tomorrow, forever rings. I'm just trying to make some peace. And I did finally half jokingly say. "oh you're just all jealous" but I think it struck a chord and yesterday went much smoother. sorry for the long post.
I have had that comment on mine from an EXTREMELY tactless (and cocktail party tipsy) aquaintance. It's 2.5 on a size 6 finger, so yes it is big but I LOVE it! I just looked at the comment maker and I was shocked. I think she realized by my expression that i was highly offended- What I wanted to say to her her was How Dare You! But that would have been just as rude I suppose.
I have a 1.5 carat princess cut with an "almost eternity" band. :) At first, was afraid to wear it because I thought it was too gaudy to be worn to work. I love it now and have since gotten over my complex about the ring. Enjoy your ring and how much your man loves you!
Has anyone had any comments on the flip side? I KNOW 1.5 carats isn't small but the very young very naive girlfriend of a friend told me MY ring was 'cute' and she wanted something more gaudy. I almost slapped her then and there. Instead I proceeded to text every friend I have in disbelief. The situation got worse because all of our friends know her boyfriends less than spectacular financial situation and for the rest of the night she kept prodding him about the ring she picked out at Saks. (Do they have real diamond e-rings?) One that was apparently much gaudier than mine and after 4 months of dating. I've remained friendly with her but have to constantly remind myself that she's 5 years younger than me and just doesn't have a clue.
Mine is a little over 1 carat with a micro pave band, and my fiance's grandmother said- I KID YOU NOT- "it's so tiny!" when she saw it! I've been on both sides of the ring comparison- how awkward- whether you're seeing a stone twice or half the size of yours!
I have an antique ring with a 1.16 ct diamond in the center, and has .70 carats of diamonds around the setting. It's definitely a flashy piece, but so far nobody has been so rude as to comment negatively about it to my face. And if anyone comments behind my back, then that's their own petty jealousy.
I'd venture to guess that if any of your coworker's husbands offered to upgrade their rings to a 1.5 carat diamond, that NONE of them would refuse.
Please don't hide your ring, or be less proud of it. There will always be petty and jealous people who will try to bring you down because you have something nicer than they do, and they can't stand that (like a nicer ring, better relationship, nicer car, you get a promotion, etc). It says nothing about you, except that you've worked hard to earn some nice things in life, and unfortunatly are surrounded by people that are too shallow to be happy for you.
My hands are so small, everyone thinks my ring is HUGE. :) But it's not--it's a perfect little vintage ring and I love it! There's always going to be people with bigger and "better" rings than you have who try to make your ring look puny...and those with smaller rings who try to make your ring look gaudy. You can't let them get to you. It's your ring, damnit, and if you like it, you should wear it proudly!
Also, the e-ring is not something a mother is tactful about--she would definitely tell you if she didn't approve!
my e-ring center stone is about .5 carats, with two .25 side stones, and eight accent stones on either side of the side stones... it's hard to explain, lol. :) my center stone is fairly small, but i have small hands, so on me it looks fine. plus, we're college students... i did not want him to break the bank for my ring at all, not when we've got student loans and grad school to pay for.
i don't buy into the whole "don't settle for less than a carat" mentality, nor do i judge if someone's ring is much larger than mine. as long as the ring was lovingly chosen and you like it, that's all that matters. :) be proud of your ring, don't feel bad!!
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The same thing happened to me, but the first time, it was a very good friend who said it, and she actually meant it as a compliment. My guy got me a gorgeous 2.5 carat super clear solitaire diamond with a very simple setting. It's just what I told him I wanted, though much bigger than I would have picked for myself. There have been times when I've felt self-conscious about it, but I love it, and while there's no way I would let him reset it with more diamonds (well, not yet at least!), it's not as big as some of our friends' rings, so I'm comfortable. I don't show it off, but I'm happy to flash it when people ask to see it. I love the fact that my fiance had such a great time learning about diamonds and that he put so much effort into finding something that would be big enough for his ego, but understated enough for me.
Regardless of what your ring looks like, or what other people have on their fingers, they all stand for the same beautiful thing, and that's what your co-workers should be celerating. But in the end, they're just jealous and that's their problem.
I don't know that your co-workers are jealous - as posters here have noted, people can and do love their smaller rings (like me)!
But I do know they are b*tches. There is no way they meant to be anything but insulting towards you.I'm glad its gotten smoother, and I would suggest you just try to swallow the hurt and move on, but now you know that these are not people who are going to be happy for the good things in your life - so I wouldn't bother sharing.
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I work with women who all sport 2.5-3ct rings, in fact one of the girls ( she got engaged recently) said that she told her fiance not to even bother with anything less than 3cts ( this was before he proposed, with at least 3ct ring). I honestly believe that it's your own personal business ( and your fiance's of course). I don't think saying anything other than a compliment is appropriate. I may not like round diamonds in particular, but that doesn't mean I will rip apart next girl who gets round diamond ring. It's just bottom line rude and it's her ring that she will wear, so why should I make her feel bad ?
Also, depending on how big you are same size will look differently on people. I am 5'9" but my friend is 4'11". If we both wear the same ring it will look much smaller on me than on her.
Tell people to mind their own business and just enjoy your engagement. Congratulations !
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Haha, mine's umm... maybe .2 carats if you combine all the stones (and there are 15 of them!). Most people don't even notice it's an engagement ring, but it's very me and I love it. Once they do know it's an engagement ring I usually get a pitying look and that's the end of the conversation. The people that know me well love it because it's so fitting for me :P
To each their own I say - people have different priorities, tastes and lifestyles and all of these things affect their choice of ring.
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Hi, this is going to sound a bit crazy but we got engaged and I am so happy and was very excited to share it with my friends and colleagues at work. I went into work and everyone (well the women anyhow) looked at my e-ring and all they said was "Your solitare is so big it looks fake. Are you sure it's not fake?" and then there were murmers of "I asked my husband for something dainty and he bought the perfect ring for me" and all of them gathered around and discussed how small and perfect their rings were and how mine just looked too gawdy. (I'm the only single one left in the group). My e-ring isn't big. It's a 1.5 carat and it's not like I picked it out. HE picked it for me! My mother (yes, a girl always goes to her mom) but my mother said "Oh they're just jealous, your ring is beautiful" but aren't all mom's supposed to say that? Did anyone else encounter such a thing? I thought they would all be happy for me, instead it seems like they're constantly putting my ring down.