I probably wouldnt have even thought about my ring during the interview process, but my advice is this:
Do what makes you FEEL most confident about yourself during the interview process. If your ring/ring size makes you feel self concious, or makes you feel like people are talking about you, it might show. So if thats the case, wear a band, and once you got hired cause youre so confident and talented, pop that sucker back on and let everyone gawk with envy :)
hahaha. I dont think you should consider what other people think, but if it affects your interviewing skills/self conciousness, you might as well just take it off. Its all about how YOU feel about yourself.
Well you don't want to screw with your chances of getting an offer, but on the other hand you don't want to get hired without mentioning your upcoming wedding and then discover they won't give you any time off. If you're going to need time off for the wedding/honeymoon, it is best to discuss this with them before you sign on the dotted line, and get the vacation time written into the contract. If they're not willing to offer you the time off, then it's probably better to know now so that you can find work elsewhere. Honestly, if they want you badly enough, they will make concessions like giving you time off for a wedding.
Sport that rock! Employers can't and shouldn't discriminate against you and if they did because of your ring than you don't want to work for them anyway!
This is a very relevant post for me too. I just started a graduate program that requires I do a summer internship- and I'm getting married this summer. Stupid I know, but its too late now. It's going to be pretty awkward to ask for that time off but I do agree that you should wear your ring. Hardly anyone has kids right away anymore and it might be perceived as you being a more mature person.
i just went through this - i applied for an internship, and i met and interviewed with three or four different women that i'd be working under. it came up with one of these women that we were both getting married this summer - me in may, and her in june. it then got around to the rest of the office... oops. i second guessed that decision, as i worried that they'd dismiss me because i was getting married and would need time off. however, i got the job anyways, so it all worked out. :)
i would wear my ring, but i wouldn't talk about it unless directly asked, and i don't think many bosses would directly ask. :)
I recently interviewed for a residency program while being engaged. I decided not to wear my ring (doesn't matter what size it is) when I interviewed outside NYC and to wear it when I interviewed in NYC. I learned this when I interviewed in Philadelphia, which is only 2 hours away. The interviewer commented on the fact that I probably would choose a position in NYC over their's. Because of that they would be less likely to consider me. I was okay wearing the ring at NYC interviews because the interviewers would see that I have a reason to stay in the city. However, at an interview out of state, I did not wear a ring, but the interviewer kept prying.... Are you married?....Do you have a boyfriend? Yes, those are all totally inappropriate questions, but they still ask. It was very important to me that I didn't give them any reason to rank me lower, and it was not a big deal not to wear the ring for a day. Unfortunately, some employers do discriminate. It all depends on your field too.
im probably in the minority here, but i would wear it (with pride) and before any questions popped off about "so are you married, are you engaged blah blah blah" from them, i'd volunteer that i am getting married - just so we're not dancing around it.
b/c in most cases, they want to know = and you want to tell them, kwim?
dont sell yourself short - your qualifications should speak for themselves and if you're getting married -so the f what? if you want to have kids and take maternity leave, so the f what? if they are truly interested and are living in the reality that yes, people do need time off for personal matter, they will focus more on you and not your upcoming request for vacation!! good luck on your interview!!
dont wear it - if you read any job interview type books, 99/100, they will tell you to not wear it - keep distractions to a minimum (being married,engaged, etc., is completely personal and it is illegal to ask) - they're there to see how awesome you are and what an asset you would be to their company - not whether or not you're available/going to leave and have babies, etc. Good luck!
I probably wouldnt have even thought about my ring during the interview process, but my advice is this:
Do what makes you FEEL most confident about yourself during the interview process. If your ring/ring size makes you feel self concious, or makes you feel like people are talking about you, it might show. So if thats the case, wear a band, and once you got hired cause youre so confident and talented, pop that sucker back on and let everyone gawk with envy :)
hahaha. I dont think you should consider what other people think, but if it affects your interviewing skills/self conciousness, you might as well just take it off. Its all about how YOU feel about yourself.
posted by penguin 209 posts 10 months agoWell you don't want to screw with your chances of getting an offer, but on the other hand you don't want to get hired without mentioning your upcoming wedding and then discover they won't give you any time off. If you're going to need time off for the wedding/honeymoon, it is best to discuss this with them before you sign on the dotted line, and get the vacation time written into the contract. If they're not willing to offer you the time off, then it's probably better to know now so that you can find work elsewhere. Honestly, if they want you badly enough, they will make concessions like giving you time off for a wedding.
posted by smartl 353 posts 10 months agoSport that rock! Employers can't and shouldn't discriminate against you and if they did because of your ring than you don't want to work for them anyway!
posted by May08LBI 72 posts 10 months agoThis is a very relevant post for me too. I just started a graduate program that requires I do a summer internship- and I'm getting married this summer. Stupid I know, but its too late now. It's going to be pretty awkward to ask for that time off but I do agree that you should wear your ring. Hardly anyone has kids right away anymore and it might be perceived as you being a more mature person.
posted by ttshoo 22 posts 10 months agoi just went through this - i applied for an internship, and i met and interviewed with three or four different women that i'd be working under. it came up with one of these women that we were both getting married this summer - me in may, and her in june. it then got around to the rest of the office... oops. i second guessed that decision, as i worried that they'd dismiss me because i was getting married and would need time off. however, i got the job anyways, so it all worked out. :)
i would wear my ring, but i wouldn't talk about it unless directly asked, and i don't think many bosses would directly ask. :)
posted by staceyb 178 posts 10 months agoI recently interviewed for a residency program while being engaged. I decided not to wear my ring (doesn't matter what size it is) when I interviewed outside NYC and to wear it when I interviewed in NYC. I learned this when I interviewed in Philadelphia, which is only 2 hours away. The interviewer commented on the fact that I probably would choose a position in NYC over their's. Because of that they would be less likely to consider me. I was okay wearing the ring at NYC interviews because the interviewers would see that I have a reason to stay in the city. However, at an interview out of state, I did not wear a ring, but the interviewer kept prying.... Are you married?....Do you have a boyfriend? Yes, those are all totally inappropriate questions, but they still ask. It was very important to me that I didn't give them any reason to rank me lower, and it was not a big deal not to wear the ring for a day. Unfortunately, some employers do discriminate. It all depends on your field too.
posted by Bride888 87 posts 10 months agoim probably in the minority here, but i would wear it (with pride) and before any questions popped off about "so are you married, are you engaged blah blah blah" from them, i'd volunteer that i am getting married - just so we're not dancing around it.
b/c in most cases, they want to know = and you want to tell them, kwim?
dont sell yourself short - your qualifications should speak for themselves and if you're getting married -so the f what? if you want to have kids and take maternity leave, so the f what? if they are truly interested and are living in the reality that yes, people do need time off for personal matter, they will focus more on you and not your upcoming request for vacation!! good luck on your interview!!
posted by MoreShoesPlease 112 posts 10 months agodont wear it - if you read any job interview type books, 99/100, they will tell you to not wear it - keep distractions to a minimum (being married,engaged, etc., is completely personal and it is illegal to ask) - they're there to see how awesome you are and what an asset you would be to their company - not whether or not you're available/going to leave and have babies, etc. Good luck!
posted by plum 1 posts 10 months ago