Post # 1
First of all, greetings to all the ladies of the hive! I think this is a great positive place to be!
Anyway here’s the story: My fiance proposed to me awhile ago with a beautiful half carat diamond ring. Now the tradition of the family is that the groom’s side of the family gifts the bride with a diamond. My fiance didn’t know that there was such a tradition (neither did I) and bought the ring with what he can afford. Since I have a ring, FMIL wants to get me another piece of jewelry OR I can get an upgrade to the diamond I have right now.
Half of me doesn’t want to because the ring is supposed to be meaningful and upgrading it now negates that. But the other half is thinking, a bigger diamond?!
What do you girls think? What would you do? Keep it or upgrade??
Post # 3
Is upgrading something you might do later? What if the FILs got you a half carat pendant. If you upgrate at your 5 year or 10 year mark, you could have those two set as earrings. You get you keep and love your sweetie’s original diamond and add bling. 🙂
Post # 4
I think it was be nice if you incorporate both! Maybe you can get a bigger stone and use the .5 carat on the side along with another stone on the other side! It’s nice of his family to do that, that way it can be more meaningful!
My e ring is the same way…The center diamond was his mothers and he bought a newer band that I would like…so its the best of both worlds! Not all FMILs would do that!
Post # 5
I know a lot of people who upgrade but it’s not for me! My ring is my grandmothers from the 1940’s and although the diamond is teeny tiny I love it! My grandmother passed away when I was 12 so it’s nice to feel like I’m caring a part of her around with me every day 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
I love jingle’s idea — and what a fab family tradition!
Post # 7
If you love your ring as is and/or think you fiance would be hurt by upgrading, I would just get another piece of jewelery.
Post # 8
i think incorporating them both into the same ring is a great idea. But if that doesn’t work, I think you could have a really nice necklace made.
Post # 9
Let them buy you nice earrings or a pendant! I’d keep the ring (i kinda feel like your FI should get you your E ring, not his family; plus it’s not like they have an heirloom store for you) and let your FI upgrade you later!
Plus…upgrading your ring isn’t necessarily proportional to carat cost. a 1 carat ring can run $3500 and up for a quality stone, whereas a 1/2 carat can be less than half that cost. Unless they really do plan on spending a few grand on you. Just letting you know…the “upgrade” may not be that much of one to the point it’s worth it.
I like halo pendants….ooooo =]
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2018 - St. Charles Borromeo Church/Jefferson-Orleans North
I’d keep the ring as your fiance chose it. To me, that’s more sentimental since that was the original ring the moment he got down on one knee.
Maybe earrings or a pendant like the previous posters have mentioned. That would be something sentimental from the IL’s. 🙂
Post # 11
I’d keep it. But I’m not a diamond industry supporter so I’m against the upgrade.
Post # 12
i think you have two options, yuo could let them upgrade it and use the ring your fiancee got for you in a pendant or bracelet… i probably would keep the ring my fiancee got for me and get a great pair of earrings or a necklace or bracelet. good luck!
Post # 13
I would opt for a delicate necklace or simple studs that flatters the neckline of your wedding dress and could be worn everyday. Either way a piece that you could wear to the office and future family gatherings would be sweet, that way they can see/ you show your appreciation everytime you see them.
Post # 14
Looks like everybody agrees with keeping the ring and getting something else. Sooo I decided to keep the ring and get a necklace instead! Thank you for all the helpful comments!!
Post # 15
oh honey… i would have upgraded 🙂
Post # 16
Lol me too! Upgrade all the way!