Engagement Ring Won't Be Ready In Time for Proposal.

posted 3 years ago in Rings
  • poll:
    Propose with solitaire at no extra cost. : (24 votes)
    96 %
    Spend extra $1800 and buy engagement ring that resembles the one being made. : (1 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 2
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    3420 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    wow!! beautiful ring!! I think you have a lot of options here! The solitare is a good idea because she can have her diamond and wait for the setting and you’re not spending extra money. I wouldn’t buy a setting that is similar to the one being made as that money could be put towards something else and I doubt she will be that particular about the picture thing. You could also buy her another ring (stand in ring) to wear while in Fiji and you can explain her ring is being made. Personally, I wouldn’t want to risk loosing the ring while on vacation, so I would want a stand in ring (maybe a wedding band or gemstone ring). Have you insured the diamond yet? Just in case you propose in Fiji with the solitare and something should happen to the ring?

    Post # 3
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    1599 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Papa.Giorgio:  I would see if they can expedite the production for an additional fee.  I worked in jewelry manufacturing (both mass-market and custom) and I can tell you it CAN be done in 3 weeks, no problem, if they put pressure on their distributor (if it’s really a handmade piece by one specific person you might have a problem, but I doubt that.)  We used to have retailers rush things all the time- sometimes they would charge their clients more, sometimes they wouldnt, but it would be WAY cheaper than $1800.  If they balk at your request, threaten to take your biz elsewhere and they may sing a different tune.

     

    This happened to my DH- he actually had a 6 week lead time on my ring and a week before we were to leave on the trip we had a blizzard and the goldsmith couldn’t get into the city from his house in long island for a week (and there’s only ONE goldsmith for this jeweler.)  DH was apparently freaking out but the guy made it in the day before we left and finished it literally within the last 20 minutes of the day like 12 hours before we left the next morning.  Things can be sped up!

    Post # 4
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    595 posts
    Busy bee

    Holy moly that ring is gorgeous! I agree with bkrocks13 to see if you can pay a little extra for them to expedite it. My fiancé actually did propose to me with a different ring because mine was not ready yet. The jewelry store allowed him to borrow a ring that looked very similar to my actual ring. Since tacori hand makes all of their rings he didn’t wanna risk getting the wrong size and then I had to wait another 4-6 weeks for it so once I went in to get fitted, my ring came 4 weeks later. As for showing pics to friends/family I pretty much just sent them the picture of the one off the tacori website and explained how I don’t have the actual ring because it was getting sized. Yes it was awkward at times but the final ring was so worth it. Good luck!!

    Post # 5
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    219 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Papa.Giorgio:  I agree with both previous posters–either see if they can expedite, or see if you can get a stand-in ring.  A stand-in ring would a great idea so there wouldn’t be the worry while on vacation (this would be my personal preference).  I wouldn’t sacrifice the ring you had in mind…which if beautiful by the way!! 

    Post # 6
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    789 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Pretty ring!  I would do the solitaire thing for the proposal, and show her a picture of what her ring will look like.  If I were in her position, I’d be happy either way!

    Post # 7
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    8016 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Papa.Giorgio:  I would just propose with an inexpensive CZ that looks similar! Then just explain and show her a pic of her real ring! 

    Post # 8
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    1981 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Papa.Giorgio:  Apparently this almost happened to us (FI proposed in Mexico). Our jeweler offerd to just let my fiance borrow his sample from the case to propose with- maybe ask if your jeweler will do that? My second choice option is the solitaire route, it’s still the same diamond, so she would always have the diamond you actually proposed with (for sentimental purposes).

    Post # 9
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    2584 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2006

    Papa.Giorgio:  I would do the solitare with her diamond.. And, just let her know the setting is being made for her and will be ready in a few weeks. Because, for one, she will just be excited to get a proposal! For two, why waste $1800 for a setting that can not be returned and will do nothing when you get the other setting? That can be money spent on the wedding! I say do the solitare thing and she will be happy, I am sure of it!!!! 

    Post # 10
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    560 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I wouldn’t propose with a different setting because what if she decides she wants that one? What if she sees the solitare and thinks it’s beautiful and you got down on one knee with that one, so she wants to keep it?

    I would say either see if you can pay extra to expedite her actual ring or propose with the matching wedding band. If your picture is correct and she’s going to be wearing that band, it’s plenty gorgeous and it might be sweet to propose with the diamond band and tell her her engagement ring will be ready very soon.

    Post # 11
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    901 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I would propose with a solitaire. Tell her afterwords that you have her forever setting being made still and she should expect it shortly after returning.

    Post # 12
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    634 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My DH proposed with my diamonid set ina simple solitaire because we custom designed my ring together afterwards. I thought it was sweet of him that he wanted to wait and make sure that the ring was perfect, but it was also a good thing that right after he asked me to marry him he said “but this isn’t your real ring, don’t worry, I’ll explain later”.

    The only other thing that I would consider going to fiji is what if she/you lose it?? if it doesn’t fit perfectly is could be VERY easy to lose in the ocean water and then you’d really be sorry. What about proposing with a fake and then explaining the real one will be at home?

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