Engagement rings are a scam?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 4
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1749 posts
Bumble bee

Diamond engagement rings may be recent, but engagement rings, and rings with a similar purpose, aren’t new at all.  

Diamond rings are just another form this type of gift has taken over the years. It’s nothing new.  Eventually, something besides diamonds will become the new standard. There’s nothing wrong with that, because that’s how things work.

Needless to say, I don’t think diamond engagement rings are a scam.  

Post # 5
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249 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I was familiar with how people have been brainwashed to think they need a diamond ring in order to believe they found a timeless love. And how the prices of diamonds have no basis in reality, they’re only to further create profits for people who don’t need any more money, and create a larger debt for people who probably have more than enough.

I have no ring, and I’m happy with that. And I’m not anti-rings, or even anti-diamonds (as long as they’re not mined), but I know a lot of girls who would have told their men NO! if they had tried proposing without a ring, or without a diamond. It makes me sad to think people like that define love by monetary standards. Money is something imaginary, paper rectangles with faces of dead people that we’ve all been programmed to believe we need. All we really need is food, water, shelter, and love. But we’re such a smart and powerful species that we’ve created these terrible obstacles to reach the things we need, that could be found in nature..

Post # 6
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2057 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

It’s nothing new. 🙂

But I’m also well aware of how simple engagements used to be — in Western and Chinese traditions.

I once said to my FI, “Even if you were to propose to me with a pair of Fluevogs (my favourite shoe designer), I’d say Yes!”

He never went the shoe route. 🙁 Would’ve been cuter.

Post # 7
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1216 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@blushpink13:  I saw a link for this the other day and just now finally watched it. I love the idea of an engagement ring, but I hate that so many people think it has to be a diamond. First of all it is unfair to the men who are expected to shell out thousands to show they love us, and second of all it’s unfair to us girls who prefer more non traditional stones that won’t break the bank. My SO is getting me moissanite, which I love for it’s warm properties. Most low color diamonds I see look dirty, not warm, where moissanite looks warm. I just worry that people will think he is cheap no matter how much I try to educate them otherwise.

Post # 8
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279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016 - Highfield House, Stanley, Tasmania

My FI and I watched this recently. I think it is shocking how deBeers has manipulated generations of couples into believing that diamonds are the only option. Don’t get me wrong, diamonds are pretty cool, but they are not the only option for couples, and the value of a ring shouldn’t matter. I think my FI and I are lucky to have both grown up in areas where diamonds are not considered any more special than other gems, so we weren’t pressured into getting gems we didn’t particularly like.

 

Again, I have nothing against diamonds, but I do have a lot against deBeers

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