Engagement Rings: Are our Men wasting their hard earned cash

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@future_behal:  I can’t watch the video because I’m at work. Hehe. Shhh. Anyway, yes, I’m sure the stone is bascially worthless if society decides it is. But instead we have decided we really like sparkly, white stones pulled from the ground. It’s the same with most anything I suppose, unless it’s something that’s super rare. Which really diamonds could be considered rare-ish. I mean, if diamonds were falling out of the sky every day, I guess we wouldn’t really want them?? Look at paper money. I have a piece of paper in my wallet that is actually worth 10 cents, but because the gov’t says it’s worth $20, it’s worth $20!

Just my 2 cents (which is probably really worth nothing in copper!).

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1997

If you feel that diamonds are worthless, what makes any other shiny rock more valuable? In the larger sense, no jewelry is has “real” value; it is all the value we place on gemstones and precious metals. None of them do anything except sit on your finger and look pretty. In that bigger sense, is anything other than food, shelter and basic clothing “valuable”? Nothing except the basics of survival has “real value” except that we artificially place on it.

I am not encouraging anyone to purchase diamonds who doesn’t want one, nor am I claiming they have any inherent value. But NO gemstones or precious metals have any “value” by that measure, so buying a ruby or emerald is just as extravagant.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@future_behal:  Why do rubies or emeralds have value? For that matter, why does gold? It’s all rather arbitrary isn’t it? 

Post # 6
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Helper bee

I think calling a diamond “worthless” is offensive. 

Engagement rings are not a scam, they’re a romantic symbol of eternal love and devotion. The fact that a man saves for/invests in a nice ring for his fiancé shows that he cares for her and is serious about her and their relationship. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@SomedayHisBride:  And I think insinuating that if a man doesn’t save for what society might deem a “nice” ring somehow doesn’t care for his fiancee or is as serious about her as another man who spent a lot of money is offensive.  Different people have different priorities, if one person’s is to spend as much as they can afford on a ring good for them.  If another would rather get the bare minimum, good for them as well.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Diamonds are worthless….you don’t say? 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

@future_behal: Why not go with moissanite? After I saw them talking about diamonds this way, and all the controversy with “blood diamonds” we decided to go with moissanite. Not only is it less expensive, its not regulated by an industry trying to tell you what you SHOULD have and what you SHOULD pay. I find it more beautiful anyways.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

 This topic has been DONE to DEATH! NNNNNNEEEEEXXXXXXXTTTTTTTT!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

If woman thought it was a “waste”, men would stop buying diamonds.

 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

“Value” is a relative, and highly individual term. Diamonds are inherently no more or less valuable than cars, purses, down comforters, or any other item that is not absolutely necessary for survival. It’s all in what you choose value and spend money on. Some women value designer shoes, others value diamonds, and others value exquisite paints to create their next visual masterpiece. I wouldn’t bat an eyelash at $200 shoes whereas my bff won’t spend more than $50. Why? Because I lurve me some shoes and she really doesn’t care. One of us isn’t better than the other. We just place different values on that item.

In short, if you want a diamond and are comfortable with spending money on one, then do it. If you don’t, then don’t.

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