Post # 1
I havent posted in a while and came across this video that really got to me. I have been married for about a year now and the ring my husband got me is beautiful but not what he expected and we have plans on upgrading sometime this year. Hes getting ready to spend a good amount of hard earned cash for another ring.
About 2 weeks ago we seen this video on Youtube about engagement rings and how diamonds are basically a scam. It goes on to explain more about the De beers company who is bascially the holy grail of all diamonds. You have a diamond…well they have given it to you. Oncve watching the video i felt really bad about my husband spenind money on something that ,the company owner himself said basically are worthless. We have put a value to the diamond. In reality they have no real value to them. So before i let me husband spend more money on something “worthless” maybe he should spend it on something else. Like rubys or emerald…Just a little food for thought.
I linked the video so if you guys want to take a gander for yourself feel free.
**please no one take offense to this post or the video, just thought i’d pass it along.
Post # 3
@future_behal: I can’t watch the video because I’m at work. Hehe. Shhh. Anyway, yes, I’m sure the stone is bascially worthless if society decides it is. But instead we have decided we really like sparkly, white stones pulled from the ground. It’s the same with most anything I suppose, unless it’s something that’s super rare. Which really diamonds could be considered rare-ish. I mean, if diamonds were falling out of the sky every day, I guess we wouldn’t really want them?? Look at paper money. I have a piece of paper in my wallet that is actually worth 10 cents, but because the gov’t says it’s worth $20, it’s worth $20!
Just my 2 cents (which is probably really worth nothing in copper!).
Post # 4
If you feel that diamonds are worthless, what makes any other shiny rock more valuable? In the larger sense, no jewelry is has “real” value; it is all the value we place on gemstones and precious metals. None of them do anything except sit on your finger and look pretty. In that bigger sense, is anything other than food, shelter and basic clothing “valuable”? Nothing except the basics of survival has “real value” except that we artificially place on it.
I am not encouraging anyone to purchase diamonds who doesn’t want one, nor am I claiming they have any inherent value. But NO gemstones or precious metals have any “value” by that measure, so buying a ruby or emerald is just as extravagant.
Post # 5
@future_behal: Why do rubies or emeralds have value? For that matter, why does gold? It’s all rather arbitrary isn’t it?
Post # 6
I think calling a diamond “worthless” is offensive.
Engagement rings are not a scam, they’re a romantic symbol of eternal love and devotion. The fact that a man saves for/invests in a nice ring for his fiancé shows that he cares for her and is serious about her and their relationship.
Post # 7
Once again this post is not to offend anyone. i have a diamond ring myself. I just thought the video was interesting, and if you havent watched it just take 3 mins to see. To know that the symbloic meaning of a ring was just something that a company has made up and to know that the owner of De Beers himself says that diamonds are “worthless” this isnt coming from me it is from him. I love diamonds and all things shiny. I just dont feel like making my husband spend money on another ring when the one I have is just fine.
Post # 8
@SomedayHisBride: And I think insinuating that if a man doesn’t save for what society might deem a “nice” ring somehow doesn’t care for his fiancee or is as serious about her as another man who spent a lot of money is offensive. Different people have different priorities, if one person’s is to spend as much as they can afford on a ring good for them. If another would rather get the bare minimum, good for them as well.
Post # 9
Diamonds are worthless….you don’t say?
Post # 10
@future_behal: Why not go with moissanite? After I saw them talking about diamonds this way, and all the controversy with “blood diamonds” we decided to go with moissanite. Not only is it less expensive, its not regulated by an industry trying to tell you what you SHOULD have and what you SHOULD pay. I find it more beautiful anyways.
Post # 11
I didnt say actually De Beers Chairman Nicky Oppiheimer said that
Post # 12
This topic has been DONE to DEATH! NNNNNNEEEEEXXXXXXXTTTTTTTT!
Post # 13
If woman thought it was a “waste”, men would stop buying diamonds.
Post # 15
@Katie918: I def agree with you. I looked into that as well and i think that is the route my husband and i may take.
Post # 16
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
“Value” is a relative, and highly individual term. Diamonds are inherently no more or less valuable than cars, purses, down comforters, or any other item that is not absolutely necessary for survival. It’s all in what you choose value and spend money on. Some women value designer shoes, others value diamonds, and others value exquisite paints to create their next visual masterpiece. I wouldn’t bat an eyelash at $200 shoes whereas my bff won’t spend more than $50. Why? Because I lurve me some shoes and she really doesn’t care. One of us isn’t better than the other. We just place different values on that item.
In short, if you want a diamond and are comfortable with spending money on one, then do it. If you don’t, then don’t.