Post # 1
Two of my friends have gotten engaged in the past two weeks, and their beautiful proposal pictures keep coming up on facebook. I am so happy for them, but I am so impatient for that to be me!! It almost makes me cry happy tears seeing their pictures because I know how absolutely elated I will be the second he is on his knees.
SO had given me a timeline of before next fall, but I THINK it might end up being before then based on some things he has said. He has been picking up extra shifts and has hinted that the money is being used for a ring…
anyways… I am the most impatient person and trying to be patient is so hard!
Post # 2
Dreaming42: What’s the big deal then? He told you he’s going to propose, which means he already decided that he wants to marry you, and he knows you’re going to say yes. So you’ve already planned to get married, which means you’re engaged. Cheer up. The ring isn’t everything.
Post # 3
Ugh i hear u my brother got engaged then my friend last week. Ugh.
Post # 4
Dreaming42: The more you think about it, the longer it gets (and the agony too). I agree with Aquaria, he’s decided he wants to marry you. The ring and the wedding is sought after, but at the end of they day, isn’t being with him enough?
Post # 5
Aquaria: I’m not sad at all, and it’s not a big deal. I know it’s coming and love him no matter what happens and when it happens. I just struggle because I am such a type-A control freak and I have such a hard time being patient especially when there are reminders. 😛
bphi163: Yep, being with him is more than enough, without a ring or fancy wedding. I was just venting about my lack of patience!! I try not to think of it and let things take their course… but with reminders every 3 minutes on the radio and tv and these beautiful pictures, I get impatient for that moment for me. I’m not jealous of them being engaged, I am just so excited for that moment! Kind of like when you are going on vacation and you count down and can’t stop talking about it. I have such a hard time waiting (in general… for a proposal, for a holiday, for a planned night out. lol)
Post # 6
Dreaming42: i totally understand how you feel as I’m going through the same thing right now. I know we are getting married, have a potential date set for marriage but no ring yet. But i know it’s coming soon so I am trying hard to be patient. I know the ring isn’t everything but the whole action of the proposal itself is when the man puts himself in a position that proves commitment to you. So to me, it is more about the gesture than about about the ring and this gesture when the man takes the folded knee is what makes me cry in every proposal video lol. Hang on in there buddy, it’s coming soon!
Post # 7
Dreaming42: OMG I feel you. Most of the time it doesn’t bother me…I live in a city where people usually don’t get married until their early 30’s, and I’m only 25, so day-to-day I don’t think about it TOO much…but I’m originally from the South and EVERYONE is getting engaged. I went from feeling happy for them but jealous, to simply wanting to punch something. Especially when it’s a girl who has been with her guy for a year or less and I’ve been with my SO for FIVE YEARS! AHHHH!
At the end of the day, though, it’s about enjoying being with your SO. In my case, I know he’s the one, and he has said so many times (unprovoked) that he wants to marry me, so I know it will happen! Just gotta chill out!
Post # 8
It’s driving me nuts too… Since August there have been countless engagements, and I keep seeing news of engagements all over facebook due to photo’s of freinds-of-friends being ‘liked’ who have gotten engaged!!! Argh!!!!!!!!
Post # 9
About 90% of my circle is already married and then another 9% are engaged. The last few trickle hanging out in the 1% with me are all single people who aren’t dating. So atm, there’s no one left to get engaged before me lol.
This past year though is when most of them got engaged and/or married. So last holiday season I sat through a bunch of engagements, all at a time when SO and I were having some troubles with the talk of marriage. I think if we had been on the same page, it wouldn’t have been so difficult. This year I feel way more excited now that things are settled. It’s so much easier to relax!
Post # 10
Dreaming42: I feel you on the whole A-type personality thing! Not having ANY control can be super hard for A-type personalities!
It’s all fine and well to say “well he wants to marry you so that should be enough” and in a perfect world it would be, but we’re human and we tend to overthink, overanalyze and just overdo everything internally.
That being said, the annoyance at waiting will start to fade if you try and focus on other things more. I find that when I’m not actively thinking about it, it doesn’t cross my mind as often and when it does, it doesn’t bother me as much. Throw some of your energy into something else, even if its just your mental energy!
Post # 11
Doesn’t it just make you mad when you see your friends that have been in a relationship for a lesser amount of time than you get engaged? That just seems unfair! Just try and remind yourself though that your guy is probably waiting for the right time, which takes patience and understanding. It can be frustrating to hold on tight while your man takes his sweet time, but it probably just means that you’re ready and he’s not. Just think to yourself though, that while these other folks are rushing into marriage, your guy is making sure you can spend an enternity together. These other shotgun weddings and proposals may not always have a chance at lasting. Hope this helps! Just try and think POSITIVE that’s all. (:
Post # 12
geekgirl84: I completely agree with what you said. It’s sooo hard to settle for the just, “he wants to marry you so be patient,” especially when I saw three people on facebook newly engaged and two weddings this past weekend alone. So disheartening, I just don’t like this feeling at all.
I don’t think I can stand another jewelry commercial anymore, sitting down watching TV is awkward and so unbearable for me. Hoping these next few weeks past by quickly, so then we can get through the awkwardness of Valentine’s Day. February should be easier, by then I will be planning our son’s first birthday party.
Post # 13
I get what you mean. At this moment the ring is sitting in this very house and I am going a little crazy. My SO and I had never heard of “engagement season” until this year and every time we hear a commercial we laugh and say “I guess it’s a thing”. I didn’t feel this antsy until the ring was in the house and I became completely disconnected from the relative time of the proposal. I have no idea when he’s going to do it. I know it’ll be soon (no later than January) so I don’t have much to complain about haha. Basically, hang in there, girl.
Post # 14
rararachael: Some people just move faster than others. It has nothing to do with the quality of the relationship or depth of feelings. I was engaged after about 8 months. I thought it was way too soon but dealt with it by having a longer engagement. Some of my friends felt it was too soon as well and were surpirised. I once mentioned it to DH and he was puzzled, said that we didn’t get engaged that quickly. He thought 6-8 months was perfectly reasonable, I thought 3-4 years and we usually agree on things.
Post # 15
I know just how you feel. A friend got engaged yesterday and I totally lost it… sometimes, when I’m really feeling down, I feel like when it does happen it’s just going to feel embarrassing that it took so long.