Engagement season is ALREADY killing me

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

Dreaming42:  What’s the big deal then? He told you he’s going to propose, which means he already decided that he wants to marry you, and he knows you’re going to say yes. So you’ve already planned to get married, which means you’re engaged. Cheer up. The ring isn’t everything.

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Ugh i hear u my brother got engaged then my friend last week. Ugh.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2025

Dreaming42:  The more you think about it, the longer it gets (and the agony too). I agree with Aquaria, he’s decided he wants to marry you. The ring and the wedding is sought after, but at the end of they day, isn’t being with him enough? 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Dreaming42:  i totally understand how you feel as I’m going through the same thing right now. I know we are getting married, have a potential date set for marriage but no ring yet. But i know it’s coming soon so I am trying hard to be patient. I know the ring isn’t everything but the whole action of the proposal itself is when the man puts himself in a position that proves commitment to you. So to me, it is more about the gesture than about about the ring and this gesture when the man takes the folded knee is what makes me cry in every proposal video lol. Hang on in there buddy, it’s coming soon!

Post # 7
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Worker bee

Dreaming42:  OMG I feel you. Most of the time it doesn’t bother me…I live in a city where people usually don’t get married until their early 30’s, and I’m only 25, so day-to-day I don’t think about it TOO much…but I’m originally from the South and EVERYONE is getting engaged. I went from feeling happy for them but jealous, to simply wanting to punch something. Especially when it’s a girl who has been with her guy for a year or less and I’ve been with my SO for FIVE YEARS! AHHHH!

At the end of the day, though, it’s about enjoying being with your SO. In my case, I know he’s the one, and he has said so many times (unprovoked) that he wants to marry me, so I know it will happen! Just gotta chill out!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

It’s driving me nuts too… Since August there have been countless engagements, and I keep seeing news of engagements all over facebook due to photo’s of freinds-of-friends being ‘liked’ who have gotten engaged!!! Argh!!!!!!!!

Post # 9
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Busy bee

About 90% of my circle is already married and then another 9% are engaged. The last few trickle hanging out in the 1% with me are all single people who aren’t dating. So atm, there’s no one left to get engaged before me lol. 

This past year though is when most of them got engaged and/or married. So last holiday season I sat through a bunch of engagements, all at a time when SO and I were having some troubles with the talk of marriage. I think if we had been on the same page, it wouldn’t have been so difficult. This year I feel way more excited now that things are settled. It’s so much easier to relax!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016 - Rosewater Room

Dreaming42:  I feel you on the whole A-type personality thing! Not having ANY control can be super hard for A-type personalities!

It’s all fine and well to say “well he wants to marry you so that should be enough” and in a perfect world it would be, but we’re human and we tend to overthink, overanalyze and just overdo everything internally. 

That being said, the annoyance at waiting will start to fade if you try and focus on other things more. I find that when I’m not actively thinking about it, it doesn’t cross my mind as often and when it does, it doesn’t bother me as much. Throw some of your energy into something else, even if its just your mental energy!

Post # 11
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Busy bee

Doesn’t it just make you mad when you see your friends that have been in a relationship for a lesser amount of time than you get engaged? That just seems unfair! Just try and remind yourself though that your guy is probably waiting for the right time, which takes patience and understanding. It can be frustrating to hold on tight while your man takes his sweet time, but it probably just means that you’re ready and he’s not. Just think to yourself though, that while these other folks are rushing into marriage, your guy is making sure you can spend an enternity together. These other shotgun weddings and proposals may not always have a chance at lasting. Hope this helps! Just try and think POSITIVE that’s all. (:

Post # 12
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Helper bee

geekgirl84:  I completely agree with what you said. It’s sooo hard to settle for the just, “he wants to marry you so be patient,” especially when I saw three people on facebook newly engaged and two weddings this past weekend alone. So disheartening, I just don’t like this feeling at all. 

I don’t think I can stand another jewelry commercial anymore, sitting down watching TV is awkward and so unbearable for me. Hoping these next few weeks past by quickly, so then we can get through the awkwardness of Valentine’s Day. February should be easier, by then I will be planning our son’s first birthday party.  

  • This reply was modified 1 year, 12 months ago by  Miley3820.
Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I get what you mean. At this moment the ring is sitting in this very house and I am going a little crazy. My SO and I had never heard of “engagement season” until this year and every time we hear a commercial we laugh and say “I guess it’s a thing”. I didn’t feel this antsy until the ring was in the house and I became completely disconnected from the relative time of the proposal. I have no idea when he’s going to do it. I know it’ll be soon (no later than January) so I don’t have much to complain about haha. Basically, hang in there, girl.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

rararachael:  Some people just move faster than others. It has nothing to do with the quality of the relationship or depth of feelings. I was engaged after about 8 months. I thought it was way too soon but dealt with it by having a longer engagement. Some of my friends felt it was too soon as well and were surpirised. I once mentioned it to DH and he was puzzled, said that we didn’t get engaged that quickly. He thought 6-8 months was perfectly reasonable, I thought 3-4 years and we usually agree on things.

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I know just how you feel. A friend got engaged yesterday and I totally lost it… sometimes, when I’m really feeling down, I feel like when it does happen it’s just going to feel embarrassing that it took so long. 

  • This reply was modified 1 year, 11 months ago by  ginimybug.
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